27 Universal Truths to Live a Happy Life NOW!

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Life is wonderful, but hard. There’s so many bad, scary things out there- death, abuse, addiction, conflict, war, deceit, divorce, abandonment, and more.

How is a person to live happily in a troubled world?

Here are 27 tips to help you keep your chin up and find the beauty within the chaos.

1. Have gratitude.

When we focus on the bad things, we often forget about the amazing blessings all around us. If we stop to notice the good things in our life, we can be surprised by how much we have!

The first step to living a happy life is to realize that you already have it- you just need to appreciate it for what it is.

2. Put on a Smile!

Smiles make people feel happy. That’s not just me talking. Research has proven that smiling triggers endorphins to be released in your brain, causing you to be happier!

Ding Li shared on the British Council, “When our brain feels happy, endorphins are produced and neuronal signals are transmitted to your facial muscles to trigger a smile. This is the start of the positive feedback loop of happiness. When our smiling muscles contract, they fire a signal back to the brain, stimulating our reward system, and further increasing our level of happy hormones, or endorphins. In short, when our brain feels happy, we smile; when we smile, our brain feels happier.”

So smile, even if it’s fake. Since smiles spread like wildfire, you might help someone else feel happier too!

3. Love yourself.

Everyone has amazing qualities.

What are yours? Write them down, congratulate yourself for them, repeat your positive qualities to yourself often, and reward yourself when you develop new ones.

Be proud of who you are and who you are becoming.

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4. Remember that other people’s opinions of you don’t matter.

We all know that we shouldn’t listen to peer pressure. That’s much easier said than done. The interesting thing is that these fears are usually our own construction. People usually aren’t actually thinking those things about us- we just think they’re thinking those things about us.

It’s our problem- not theirs.

Honestly letting go of those unnecessary cares lifts a burden from your shoulders. It makes your life feel free.

5. Live by the Golden Rule.

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Being nice is important. A life full of malice, backstabbing, anger, and broken relationships isn’t fun. It’s just lonely and sad. Whatever people think they have to gain from being rude, it’s never as good as what they can lose.

Choose to be nice.

6. Hug your kids, your spouse, your friends, and your parents often.

People are all that matter in life.

Jobs come and go, houses eventually fall down, money can be lost. All that we can count on are the people that we value. Build those relationships by putting the people in your life first. Create memories together.

“Love is spelled TIME.” -Zig Ziglar

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7. Live in the real world.

When you look back after one, or two, or three hours of TV/video games/cell phone use/social media, what did you gain from that time?

Did you learn something new? Did you connect with friends? Did you build yourself into a better person?

Sometimes technology can help us do those things, but sometimes it can distract us and be a huge time-waster. Pay attention in your own life so that you don’t miss out on quality experiences in exchange for an hour of Candy Crush or Angry Birds.

8. Stop being afraid.

Let go of fear by accepting that growth comes with repetitive (but temporary!) setbacks.

Fear of those setbacks holds us back. Don’t be afraid of failure!

Let yourself try something new, even if you’re no good at it at first. Don’t be afraid to put in the time and effort necessary to excel at a new skill.

9. Manage your finances using a budget.

Finances are an important part of our daily lives. They can cause enormous amounts of stress, or they can provide freedom and amazing opportunities.

Take control of your finances by using a budget in order to improve your quality of life.

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10. Don’t spread yourself too thin.

Parents, this is especially a challenge for you.

You’ve got to take care of yourselves! You’re in charge of keeping your household running, your kids cared for, food on the table and money in the bank. If you drive yourself crazy because you never had a break, who’s going to do all that for your family? No one!

Make sure your needs are being met, for the sake of your family.

11. Grow what you have.

Life is full of chances to grow exponentially.

Watch for opportunities to invest. This could be money, but it could also be time savers, work opportunities, learning a new skill, or mastering a current skill.

Invest in yourself and invest in the stock market.

12. Be prepared for emergencies.

I’ve realized that everyone I know is going through something big. Constantly. I was surprised when I finally put that together. It seems like some people are cozy and happy and live a perfect life, but I just don’t know them well enough to know what their current challenge is.

So if life is constantly throwing curve balls our way, why don’t I prepare for them?

Have an emergency fund, have safety plans, have backup supplies. Be ready, because life’s struggles are constant.

13. Make your goals happen!

I have always appreciated a person who does what he says. Even when it’s just a personal commitment that doesn’t impact other people.

When you set goals, consider them a binding covenant with yourself to complete something you started.

If you need help writing effective goals, check out this post: The Secret to Foolproof Goals.

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14. Read.

Books are amazing. They are cheap fun, they help you see other perspectives, increase your vocabulary, they teach you new things, they build your memory skills, they encourage you to think critically, they teach moral principles.

In today’s world, you can even listen to audio books while you clean the house, nurse the baby, or eat dinner. Enjoy books to build yourself.


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Over 35 Guilty Pleasures for Moms that I’m NOT ABOUT to Stop!

AMAZING Miracle of Moms- Let’s All Be That Mom Every Day

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What About Me? Parents- Take Care of Yourselves!


15. Learn something new.

I firmly believe that every bit of knowledge a person can gain will have some important use someday.

You never run out of storage space for more knowledge, it’s easily accessible online through blog posts like this one and YouTube… there are literally no downsides- knowledge can only help you. The world is at your fingertips!

Learn something new today!

16. Have a positive outlook on life.

Don’t give up on people who disappoint you. They’ll come around.

Don’t fret about the small things because there’s always more good than bad.

Don’t neglect the good things that are happening around you.

Do look forward to what’s coming next, because it will be an exciting adventure!

17. Smell the roses.

Live intentionally. Know what you’re about. Know what you like, what you dislike, what you want, what you are becoming.

Notice the small things around you that are part of daily life that bring you happiness. After all, they can only make you happy if you are paying attention.

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18. Keep your body healthy.

Drink water, eat healthy (but allow yourself some treats), be active by going outside and playing with your kids, eat until you’re full and then stop eating.

Learn to listen to your body’s cues and respect them.

19. Don’t worry about keeping up with the newest and best.

The drive to be better can be consuming. It is a good thing to want to be better as a person, but it is unhealthy to focus on constantly upgrading things.

Life isn’t about things. Things don’t bring joy- people do. So get out of the rat race. Let go of the things.

Fix it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.

20. Get out of the comfort zone.

Growth and achievement don’t happen in the comfort zone. They happen when you get uncomfortable, when things change, when life hurts, when you work hard.

21. Have fun without spending a ton of money.

There are so many ways to enjoy leisure without breaking the bank. I can hardly afford to go to the movies anymore. I pay $8 per person to get in, $12 for snacks, $10 for sodas, and now I’ve spent my play money for the whole month.

Learn to have fun right where you are, with the people who are always there, without any extra planning or preparation. Need some ideas? Click here!

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22. Sleep!

Our bodies and minds need sleep. If we can’t function, how are we supposed to enjoy our day?

Take care of your sleep needs and you’ll feel happier and more efficient.

23. Have new experiences.

Sometimes, the hardest part of life is monotony. It can just drag on. You do the same thing day in and day out.

People need a little excitement! Switch it up for yourself by trying something new.

24. Organize your home, your schedule, and your life.

Just the opposite of monotony- People are creatures of habit. We like routine. Creating predictability can be comforting. We know what to expect, we feel secure.

Make a schedule for yourself, or a more organized home, or plan your week to give yourself more security.

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25. Write down all the details of your amazing life!

Even if your life seems boring or routine to you, other people are going to want to know what you were all about. Especially your kids and grandkids.

People don’t journal anymore, but we should! It’s a way to be immortal, a way to be involved in your family for generations, a way to teach life lessons so others don’t have to learn them the hard way.

And it gives perspective to your life now. Instead of getting swallowed up in the day to day, writing in a journal reminds me of my end goals and refocuses me on how to get there.

26. Discuss important topics as a family.

Families should hold regular “meetings” with each other. This is an important time for

  • every individual to speak their mind,
  • discuss important topics that affect the family,
  • gather ideas to solve problems,
  • address the family’s needs, and
  • connect with each other.

Having regular family time like this will increase your family closeness.

27. Forgive.

Grudges weigh people down. They are unproductive, unnecessary baggage in an already difficult journey. Just get rid of them!

They aren’t helping you, or anyone else. It’s time to forgive.

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These 27 tips are all things I have tried in my life, and they all work. Give them a try, and let us know how it goes in the comments below!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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Over 35 Guilty Pleasures for Moms that I’m NOT ABOUT to Stop!

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I love my kids. I really really really do.

But it can get old to be interrupted from the luxury of me-time after only 5 minutes– Every. Single. Time.

The other afternoon, I tried to catch some leisure by turning on a show, curling onto the couch under my fuzziest blanket, and playing sudoku on my phone. The remote in one hand and a bag of M&M’s in the other, I was in heaven. For about 8 minutes until my daughter woke up unexpectedly early from her nap.

Of course.

I think kids come equipped with a radar for when mom is relaxing.

It’s like a horror movie when it’s unreal quiet around, and you know something bad is about to happen. And yet, you jump every time when the bad guy pops out.

For some reason, I don’t learn. I still jump every time my sweet cuties pull me out of my daydream world of relaxation and slap be back into cold, hard reality.

But I’ll keep trying to get a little more down time! Although I love my children and the time I have with them, I understand that I deserve these few moments of peace and serenity doing the things that I love, the things that speak to my soul, the things that keep me going.

Please comment below- What are your mommy-specific guilty pleasures?? How do you keep your mom life and your personal life balanced?

I’m no quitter- and I’m not about to start now. Here’s all my guilty pleasures as a mom that I plan to continue- indefinitely:

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1. After Bedtime Happy Dance

I hope my kids never see this because I might hurt a few feelings. I’m just really excited for my quiet, blissful evening to begin.

2. Sleep

Sleeping in, naps, early bedtimes… Any and all sleep I can get. Even just one night without waking up at least once would be fantastic. I’ll always treasure any and all sleep that I can get.

3. Leaving Dad with the Kids Even Though I Have Nowhere to Be

Poor guy. There are days when he gets home from work and I’m so ready to pass that baton. “I’m off to anywhere!”

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4. Sneaking the Best Treats From the Kitchen so that I Don’t Have to Share Them

As a kid, I knew to watch my dad. If I ever caught him casually walk out the garage door holding a spoon, I knew he was sneaking ice cream from the freezer in the garage.

All I had to do was follow quietly.

If he was caught, he would rather share ice cream with you. Better that than have all of his kids alerted that the ice cream was being eaten and descend like vultures.

5. Shutting Myself in My Room for NO Reason

Just to breathe and recoup. I love my room.

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6. Not Adjusting Bedtime At Daylight Savings

There’s this one magical thing that happens at daylight savings time in the Spring. Your child is used to going to bed at 8pm… But when the time changes, he’s tired at 7 instead of 8. So bedtime is now at 7.

Take that, universe, I win!

Note- this only works once per year. In the Fall, the child isn’t tired for an hour after bedtime, so the universe will take its revenge.

7. Go the Whole Day Without Putting My Bra On

Ahhhhhhh. Freedom.

8. Fast Food Runs 15 Minutes Before Dinner Time

Someday I’ll plan out my meals… But not today.

9. Hidden Candy and Chocolate Just For Me

Lindor truffles are for moms only.

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10. Binge-Watching My Favorite Shows on Netflix

This only works at night time. See you in 4 hours!

11. Game Nights with the Girls

Girls’ nights are the best! They get you, they know what you need, and they’re all the in same boat.

It’ll be Ticket to Ride and Scrabble for the next 4 hours!

12. Caffeine

Dr. Pepper is my favorite guilty pleasure.

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13. Eating Way More Ice Cream Than I Want to Admit To

Like, way more.

14. Eating Ice Cream Straight Out of the Container When I Finally Give Up On Manageable Portions

It’s just not worth it to dish up that many servings. Better to just take the whole container with me to the couch so that I don’t have to get up again.

15. Adding Chocolate and Caramel Syrup to My Already Insane Amounts of Ice Cream

I’ve already accepted that 5 pounds I’ll gain by tomorrow.


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16. Googling New Skills That I Know I’ll Never Really Learn

When I grow up, I’ll be an artist, and a gardener, and a writer, and a cosmetologist, and a chef, and a…..

17. Making the Kids A Lame (But Easy to Prepare) Dinner… Then Waiting To Eat Until They are Done Eating So that I Can Eat Something Better

I really don’t want to eat Macaroni and Cheese. But they will… Unless they see a better option.

All it takes is a little patience, and I’ll be eating well tonight without the effort to make a full meal for the family.

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18. Putting My Bath Bomb Collection to Good Use

See you in an hour!

19. Getting Distracted On Social Media For Long Periods of Time

Woops. On the plus side, I actually know what’s going on in the world around me!

20. That Gut Wrenching Moment When I Snap Back Into Reality and Realize How Much Time has Passed

Ooops. What trouble have my kids been getting into while I’ve been distracted??

21. Saying “They’ll Be Fine” When I Am Too Tired to Stop the Kids from Whatever They Shouldn’t Be Doing

Sometimes it’s just not worth it.

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22. Letting the House Stay Dirty

It’s not that bad!

23. Having Second Helpings of Dinner… Or Dessert

Just a little more please…

24. Staying in My PJ’s All Day

A happy life is finding the perfect balance between looking amazing on some days (so that you have good self-confidence) and never getting dressed on some days (so that you don’t go crazy trying to be perfect).


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-Bath Bomb Set

-Neck and Shoulder Massager

-Assorted Lindor Truffles

-Silk Pajamas

-Ticket To Ride (My favorite game for a girls’ night)


 

25. Putting the Kids to Bed 20 Minutes Early On Occasion

There are times that I’m just done. And my kids are still too young to understand time…. They always say that time will go fast.

And it will. Someday, school will ruin this luxury by teaching my kids valuable life lessons of how to read a clock and manage time.

But for now, they don’t get it and that gives me the advantage.

So… In bed they go- 20 minutes early.

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26. Making Up Answers When I Don’t Know Them

Kids think we know more than we do. It’s flattering in a way. I like to think I know a lot. But every once and a while, I’m grossly humbled when they stump me.

Good thing I have an imagination that fills in the blanks. And I still look smart.

27. Wear Leggings to the Store Because They’re the Closest Socially Acceptable Wardrobe to Pajamas

I just want to FEEL like I’m in my pajamas even if I can’t be. Is that too much to ask??

28. Paint My Nails Crazy Colors

Fun, fun, fun!

Who cares if it only matches my outfit for one day and then I’m stuck with them for a week??

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29. Call and Chat with My Mom for an Hour

I miss that lady. Is there anything I have to do in the next 60 minutes?? Break time!

30. Swear Like a Sailor

Let’s let all that built up frustration go in one long stream of curses.

31. Complain about My Kids to Other Moms When their Behavior is Tough to Handle

Again, let’s let the built up frustration go. Take II. Actually, this and swearing like a sailor often go hand in hand.

32. Pin Funny Mom Jokes

Even when they’re a little dicey… Actually, the dicey-er the funnier.

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33. Google Healthy Meals that I’ll Never Cook

Come on.

Why do I kid myself?

34. Spend Money on Myself

Amazon has a genius business plan targeted to me personally.

I’m the reason they’re rich… and the reason I’m not!!

35. Take the Batteries Out of that Toy that’s Been Driving Me Crazy… Even Though My Kid LOVES It

“What? It’s not working? That’s weird, it worked a second ago… Oh well.”

36. Never Shave My Legs… Until I Have To

My husband likes to fondly compare me to a cactus. It’s ok, I know who I am.

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37. Soak Up Adult Conversations When I Can Get Them

Like a sponge.

There’s only so much Dora the Explorer and Itsy Bitsy Spider that I can take. I want to think and philosophize and challenge myself here and there.

Or just hear about everyone’s opinions of The Bachelor. That’s good too.

Please comment below- What are your mommy-specific guilty pleasures?? How do you keep your mom life and your personal life balanced?

So moms, now you know all my guilty little secrets… that I fully intend to continue.

I hope you treat yo self to some little perks in life too.

It’s worth it, and you’re worth it.

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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If “Mom” Were a Paid Profession… How Much $$$ Would YOU Have Made In 2018?

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Moms, you have the hardest and the lowest paying job in the world. You are NEVER off the clock, you get no holidays off or paid vacation time, none of the traditional working benefits, no HR department to back you up, no handbook.

And you do it all for $0 per hour, $0 per year.

But what if you did get paid for everything you do?

What would that paycheck look like?

To find out, let’s assess these 13 “jobs” that all fall into the daily life of a mom and how much those careers pay.

(I used salary.com for all of my data unless otherwise specified)

Comment Below- How much money would be “worth it” to you for all the work you do as a mom if you were considering making “mom” your chosen career?

1) Nurse

Moms are the nurse of the family. We have to know how to diagnose common illnesses, what remedies to try, how to administer medication, and how to have great bedside manner with our little patients.

Besides all that, we are constantly on call for the job of nurse. If our child is sick at 2am, we’re out of bed taking care of him. If our kid is throwing up at school, we leave our day jobs to go pick her up.

How much do nurses earn?

There is quite a range. Pediatric nurse practitioners also work specifically with children. The average salary for entry level pediatric nurse practitioners is $102,545.

On the other end of the spectrum, a school nurse (who also specializes in working with children) makes an average of $49, 088.

2) Chef

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Moms are chefs at home. They are the primary meal planner- in charge of creating a menu, taking inventory of what food is available, purchasing any necessary ingredients, preparing the food, and making good use of the leftovers.

It could be argued that parents also do the job of Server ($27,308) and Nutritionist ($60,467), but just to be conservative we’ll stick with chef.

But for simplicity sake, we’ll stick with chef. The average chef earns $45,396 per year.

3) Chauffeur

How much driving do you think a parent does every day? It’s a ton! Between all the different lessons and activities our kids are involved in (sports, music, dance, gymnastics, church, clubs, student council, etc.) not to mention just getting to school, I feel like I’m living out of the car.

There are days that we pack dinner to eat on the go just because we know there isn’t going to be time to drive home and eat between the kids’ different appointments. Moms are definitely chauffeurs.

The average chauffeur earns $33,417 per year.

4) Mediator/Judge

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Moms and Dads are constantly helping their children solve problems. This could be problems between you and the child, problems between two of your children, or problems between a child and their friends.

There are times when parents do the job of a judge- which is to listen to both cases, review the rules of the family, and make a decision about who was right and who was wrong. This almost always comes with administering some sort of punishment to the guilty party. It’s not a pleasant job.

Judges earn a whopping $162,653 per year! And they deserve every penny. Being a judge is rough.

Mediators are a little different.

Interestingly, they are paid less than a judge although mediating in a family can be more complex and involved than judging in a family.

Mediation involves listening to both sides using reflective listening techniques and guiding a conversation between the two parties to help them come to a reasonable solution on their own. Rather than judging where you are the final say, in mediation the goal is to have both parties agree on a plan of action. This is especially difficult when dealing with two parties who are angry with each other, and sometimes angry with you.

Mediators are paid an average of $64,174 annually.

(https://www.indeed.com/salaries/Mediator-Salaries)

5) Bookkeeper/Accountant

Parents have a lot of behind the scenes work to make a home run smoothly and effectively.

One important job they do every day is managing the family finances. This is comparable to a bookkeeper or an accountant. Moms and dads earn money, track expenses, complete tax forms, and budget.

The salary ranges depending on experience and education. A Bookkeeper ($42,015 per year) has more basic knowledge and skills rather than an Entry Level Accountant ($51,284 per year) who has more specialized training.

6) Professional Organizer

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Moms are constantly organizing. It’s the job of the parents to keep the living space livable– which means implementing all the life hacks that they can find to simplify the day to day juggle.

Moms find creative ways to store all their children’s items, like toys, backpacks, shoes, lunchboxes, video games, etc.

They also get clever about how to fit all the necessities of life into small spaces, making the most of the room that they have. It’s an amazing thing to see!

Professional organizers make $42,825 per year on average.

(https://www.payscale.com/research/US/Job=Professional_Organizer/Hourly_Rate)


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7) Cosmetologist

Moms and dads are in charge of their children’s appearance, at least before the kids are old enough to do their own hair and choose their own clothes.

This involves a lot beyond just running a comb through each child’s hair.

Moms and dads wash, cut, and style their children’s hair. They paint fingernails. They even dress the kids.

The average cosmetologist earns $27,278.

(https://www.ziprecruiter.com/Salaries/Cosmetologist-Salary)

8) Interior Design

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Parents are responsible for the general appearance and ambiance in their home.

When done well, this makes a big difference in quality of life.

Parents can design a home to promote fun, creativity, education, and relaxation. For example, a parent decides if there is a reading area in their home, if there are educational toys, if the wall colors encourage relaxation, if the children get a say in the design of their room, etc. There are endless possibilities!

Interior designers average $45,198 per year.

9) Photographer

It’s the parent’s job to catch all the wonderful moments in daily life and on special occasions. They are the photographer. It’s up to them to take pictures that will remind each other of the fun and happiness that we experienced as a family.

That’s no small task, and so important! It would be tragic to miss or forget the amazing details of childhood.

Photographers typically make $63,154.

10) Housekeeper

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A housekeeper is similar to a maid. The job includes duties like doing laundry, tidying, deep cleaning and disinfecting, washing dishes, and making beds.

It’s important to know tricks to get stains out of clothes, how to clean carpets when kids pee on them, which cleaners are most effective for each surface in your home, and what chemicals are harmful to children.

Housekeepers average $25,091 per year.

11) Life Coach/Counselor

Moms and dads are constantly offering helpful advice to get their children through life’s learning process. This is one job of a parent that continues even after your children move out of the house.

You are called upon when your kids are disappointed by a bad grade, when a friend lets them down, when they go through a breakup, when they lose a job, when they move schools and miss their friends, when they don’t get along with their peers, when they experience bullying, when they make mistakes.

Your job is to offer emotional support, wisdom, and guidance.

You help them work through their feelings and guide them to find their own solutions.

A life coach typically earns $46,285 and a family support counselor earns about $38,926.

(https://www.payscale.com/research/US/Job=Life_Coach/Hourly_Rate)

12) Purchaser/Merchandise Buyer

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Shopping is a never-ending chore for parents. Of course, I don’t mean the fun kind of shopping where you get cute new clothes. I mean grocery shopping. No fun.

Most businesses hire a purchaser, who is in charge of keeping warehouses and businesses stocked with essential items. That means everything from their top selling item to the toilet paper in the bathroom.

Moms do that too. We keep our homes stocked with everything from ketchup to batteries to shaving cream.

Purchasers earn approximately $91,360 per year.

13) Teacher or Teacher Aide  

All parents act as teacher aids. They are in charge of helping the child understand the concepts taught at school so that the child can successfully complete his homework. It’s not easy to explain and teach without just giving away answers.

Teacher’s Aids make $22,367 per year.

Some elite parents home school their kids. They take on the full role of teacher. That means you have all the duties of a teacher’s aid, but you also have to plan lessons, implement lessons, research various ways to present the information, test your child’s understanding, and meet the education criteria provided by your state.

I admire parents who can do all that because it’s a ton of work in addition to the regular workload of a parent!

Teachers make around $56,289 annually.

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Moms, you’re priceless. But every once and a while, it’s nice to see a price anyways. 😊

I know, I probably forgot something…. The list is just so endless. You could include recreation management, pharmacist, tutor, car mechanic, seamstress, fashion designer, landscaper… There’s so much that parents do every day, there’s just no way to include every “job” a mom does.

 

Using the jobs listed above, let’s add all the salaries just for fun to see what the salary for all those roles combined would be!

Now, I know, adding a bunch of salaries isn’t exactly how a mom’s worth should be calculated because you have to control for factors like education requirements, professional experience, professional training, and special skills… Another limitation is that moms might spend much less time per job because they have so many total jobs to do rather than devoting a 40 hour workweek to each thing. For example, I spend about 7 hours per week helping my kids with their hair, but a cosmetologist spends 40 hours per week helping people with that.

Blah blah blah.

I know this number doesn’t mean much, But just for fun, let’s do it! We’ll get around to a more realistic dollar amount later.

All together… Mom jobs’ salaries combined equals….

$565,198 per year!!!!

 

Woo Hoo!!! And by the way, that’s going off of the lowest salaries combined- for example, there is a range in what accountants vs bookkeepers earned, so we used the salary for bookkeeper since it was lower. Just to be safe. So a mom’s salary could be even higher than that!

Again, this is a little bit of an unrealistic number because of various factors that need to be accounted for but WHO CARES???

It’s just nice to know that our work really is worth something!

 

Ok, I did promise a more accurate number.

I did find some awesome people who are smarter than me who did some accurate math to account for education, experience, etc. and the result was a more reasonable salary.

A mom’s (real and accurate) salary in 2018 should have been…..

$162,581!!!

 

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Still good, but I like the first number better.

Comment Below- How much money would be “worth it” to you for all the work you do as a mom if you were considering making “mom” your chosen career?

 

Thanks for having some fun with me today looking into what a mom is “worth”. Seriously, there isn’t a number that accurately reflects all the love and patience and sacrifice you do every day.

But it is weirdly nice to know that we are worth a lot. What we do really is hard, despite all those haters who ask “What do moms do at home all day?” They might not understand all the jobs you moms do every day, but I do.

Keep it up! You’re amazing.

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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The Most Important Word in the English Language (For Parents)- Remember

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Parenting is a lot of work, and every once and a while, you start to really feel it.

Each of a child’s stages of growth are hard in their own way for the parents. Each one has something that we don’t look forward to. Dirty diapers, sleepless nights, helping with homework, when our kids start dating… No wonder our hair turns grey.

But each stage also has so many wonderful things! Things to look forward to before the stage comes and things to look back on fondly after that stage ends.

I’ve heard that one of the most important words in the English language is “remember.”

I want to take a minute to remember all the great things from each stage of my kids’ lives- and look forward to the fun things coming up for our family as well!

 

Comment below- What is your favorite stage and why? What is your favorite memory from daily life with your kids?

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  • Babies:

Yes, there are poopy diapers, sleepless nights, and little extra time and energy for yourself.

Enjoy this great resource on getting through the tough parts of the baby stage! Click the image below!

But, here are just a few of the great things about the baby stage:

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-Remember wondering- what will they look like? When will they be born? What will their personality be like?

-Remember how they fit in your arm?

-Remember how they liked to be held tight?

-Remember the one-on-one time in the middle of the night? Just you and your baby?

-Remember how they changed your life?

-Remember when they were too big for their tiny clothes?

-Remember when they started saying mama or dada?

-Remember how excited you were for every new skill they learned? Using their hands, eating food, sitting up, standing, walking, talking?

-Remember how they smiled at you every time you walked in the room?

-Remember how they put their arms up for you to hold them?

-Remember how peaceful and cozy they looked when they were sleeping?

-Remember when they fell asleep on your chest?

 

  • Toddlers:

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Yes, there is potty training, tantrums, and lots of messes day to day.

Enjoy this resource to help you through the tough parts of the toddler stage! Click the image below.

But there are also wonderful things about the toddler stage. Here are just a few of the amazing things about toddlers:

-Remember how interested they were in the world around them?

-Remember how silly they were?

-Remember when they played peekaboo with you every chance they got? Under the table, behind the couch, behind books?

-Remember how they got so excited to see you when you came home?

-Remember how they got too big to cradle, so you had to hug them upright instead?

-Remember how proud they were of their accomplishments? The first time they went potty on the toilet, picking up their toys, making you laugh?

-Remember when people would stop you in the store to tell you how cute and precious your child was?

-Remember how they would snuggle into you when they were nervous about a stranger in the store who wanted to talk to them?

-Remember how they loved to help you with everything you were doing? Laundry, dishes, sweeping the floor… Even though it wasn’t always super helpful?

-Remember when they got excited about everything you were excited about, even if they didn’t really understand why you were excited?

-Remember how happy they were all the time?

 

  • Childhood:

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Yes, there are lots of late nights doing homework, striving to teach all kinds of life skills (money, responsibility, honesty, taking care their things, basic cooking, and so much more!), and coaching through social problems between friends and siblings.

Click the image below for a great resource to help through this stage!

But there are countless fun and exciting things unique to childhood, such as:

-Remember their first friends?

-Remember when they went to school for the first time? They were excited and scared. You had to let them go.

-Remember when they started understanding jokes? And they were so excited to tell them to you, even if you’d heard them a thousand times?

-Remember watching them get independent? Capable of helping themselves instead of needing you to do everything for them?

-Remember when they started being helpful around the house? Capable of cleaning up after themselves, setting the table, unloading the dishwasher….

-Remember when they worked hard to earn something they wanted? They were so happy when they got it, but that was nothing compared to how proud you were of their hard work.

-Remember when they were disappointed? You would have done anything to fix it for them. But you couldn’t, and you knew that they would learn something, but it still hurt both of you.

-Remember when they started reading and opened up a whole new world of possibilities for themselves? All the sudden, they are reading billboards, TV commercials, shopping lists, everything they can get their hands on!

-Remember when they started writing their own name? And then you had to worry that random objects would be labeled with your child’s name?

-Remember when they learned to imagine? They started coming up with their own stories, with their own plot twists, settings, characters, all the elements of a great tale.

-Remember when they wanted you to play with them?

-Remember when they wanted to be cool, but they didn’t really know how? All they needed to be cool was a dollar store pair of sunglasses or a Spiderman back pack.

  • Teenagers:

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Yes, you’ll have to deal with your child dating, high emotions and hormones, miscommunications or refusal on the child’s part to communicate with you. Often this stage comes with defiance and frustration with rules as the child tries to become their own person and learn who they are.

Here’s a wonderful help to teen troubles. Click the image below!

But teens have great qualities that younger kids don’t have yet!

-Remember when they were old enough to really talk to? Like, really talk to?

-Remember when they liked to play pranks?

-Remember when they first thought about morals? Remember when they came up with their own opinions on moral topics?

-Remember when they disagreed with you, and they actually had good arguments to back up their position?

-Remember seeing them become who they wanted to be?

-Remember when they chose hobbies and interests? Remember how hard they worked to be good at it?

-Remember when they were so proud of their accomplishments?

-Remember when they learned to drive? A whole door was opened to them. Remember how much they loved their first car, even if it was an old beater?

-Remember when they opened up to you and told you how they were feeling, even if it was few and far between?

-Remember when they cried on your shoulder over a break up, and you were secretly so glad that relationship was over?

-Remember when you hoped and prayed that they would come home safely every night? And you stayed up late just to make sure?

-Remember how you loved them even when they were difficult?

And through all stages, no matter how big or how small your child was, remember hoping that they would never get bigger? Hoping it would never end? Hoping they would stay your baby forever?

Well, they do get bigger, and it is sad for us parents. But they are our babies forever. No matter what.

But that doesn’t mean we will miss the way they used to be. Parents will always look back on childhood and miss how our little ones once were.

It’s ok, they can get bigger and move on to be adults. They’ll accomplish great things and raise sweet children of their own. We can handle that, as long as we can remember how they used to be.

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For those of us who are still in it, let’s soak them up! Treasure your babies while they are babies.

For those of you whose children are already grown, enjoy the memories and share your advice for the rest of us!

Comment below what gems of knowledge you want us all to have!

 

Love all you moms and dads! Keep up the hard work, and don’t forget to remember!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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Shut Down the Mommy Guilt by Teaching Kids Through Your Own Failures

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Like every parent out there, I want the best for my kids.

And I realize that my kids have the best shot in life if I give them 100% every day. The best teaching, the best example, the best guidance.

So it hurts when I’m not at my best and I wish I could be.

But this helps.

No man knows how bad he is till he has tried very hard to be good. A silly idea is current that good people do not know what temptation means. This is an obvious lie. Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is. After all, you find out the strength of the German army by fighting it, not by giving in. You find out the strength of a wind by trying to walk against it, not by lying down. A man who gives in to temptation after five minutes simply does not know what it would have been like an hour later. That is why bad people, in one sense, know very little about badness. They have lived a sheltered life by always giving in.” -CS Lewis

I am a good mom because I know what I need to change to be better.

I am a good mom because I try to make those changes every day.

And I am a good mom because I don’t stop when it gets tough.

So when those evil voices in my head try to tear me down, this is what I do.

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(Please note- depression or anxiety disorders may need professional help of a doctor and/or counselor.  These steps should not take the place of professional help.)

  • Shut them up.

I hate those voices in my head that tell me that I can’t do it, that I’m a bad parent, that I’m not good enough. They are noisy, obnoxious, and negative.

The only good thing about them is that they aren’t real. They don’t represent reality. They don’t accurately portray who I am. And I’m the only one who can hear them. Nobody else is thinking what they are saying to me.

That gives me a lot of power.

All I have to do to shut them up is to think about anything else. Two thoughts can’t fit in my brain at the same time, especially a positive thought and a negative thought. If I focus on the positives in my life, the negatives just don’t have any room left. Or if I think about someone else and what I can do to help them, there just isn’t any space for those nasty thoughts left.

I have the power to shut them up.

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  • Be objective.

People who aren’t directly involved in a situation weirdly tend to see clearer what is happening. That’s because they aren’t confused by the overwhelming emotions and chaos of the moment.

When I am trying to make changes in myself, it helps to step back and take the role of an outside observer.

I ask myself, “If a good friend came to me with my exact situation, what would I advise him to do? What would I suggest that he change?”

If a good friend needed my help, I wouldn’t judge him or criticize him for the situation he is in! So I don’t judge or criticize myself as I think through what I want to fix about my parenting.

I just think logically about where I am now, where I want to be, and what reasonable steps lay between.

Then I take the first step.

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  • Pick one thing.

Change doesn’t happen all at once, like turning on a light switch. It’s usually little by little, like a sunrise, that you become who and what you want to be.

So start with a reasonable, attainable goal.

What can I accomplish today?                                                                                                                               

After a day or two of success, I feel more capable of expanding my goal. Once I build my confidence, I build on the original goal.

What can I accomplish in one week?

Little by little, I become a different person with new habits and attitudes. More like my ideal self. And it shows in my parenting.

  • Accept setbacks.

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In all this, I have to remember that setbacks will happen.

Just because I’m making progress toward a goal doesn’t mean that I am suddenly a perfect person- and I shouldn’t expect perfection of myself.

There will be days that I take a step backward instead of moving forward.

Sometimes there is a week or a month or a year that I seem to slide backward.

But that just means that I have more opportunity to move forward again in the future. It’s never too late to become a better person, a better parent.

  • Teach!

Our kids learn wonderful things from watching parents struggle through their own life challenges. Kids learn that they don’t have to be any one thing. They learn from their parents’ example that they can change if they want to- and they learn HOW to do so. Showing kids that life is difficult (but not impossible!) prepares them to accomplish difficult things in their own lives.

Don’t shelter your children from your failures. Let them see.

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If they think you are perfect, they will think that they should be perfect when they reach  adulthood. And that would be a nasty surprise when they reach adulthood and find themselves to be imperfect.

And imagine how you and your child can celebrate together when you reach your goals! Show your child that it was all worth it. That you did it- you handled the pain and fear and frustration and you overcame the odds.

Show them, and then they can do it too.

They will use you as inspiration when life gets challenging.

How ironic that they are often our inspiration too.

So decide today what you want to be, and go and make it happen.

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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