8 Ideas to Make Valentine's Day (Or Any Other Day) Special for Your Man

8 Ideas To Make Valentine’s Day (Or Any Other Day) Special for Your Man

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Let’s face it, Valentine’s Day is mostly a girl holiday.

We love the cute red balloons, and pink heart-shaped desserts, and giant teddy bears, and of course LOTS of chocolate! But more than anything, we love feeling spoiled by our man!

This Valentine’s Day, I wanted to switch things up a bit. I decided to think of ways that I could spoil him

But it wasn’t easy.

In fact, it was pretty stinking tricky.

In the process of brainstorming, here’s a list of my absolute, topnotch, foolproof ideas to make Valentine’s Day a special day for your man this year! 

Here’s to strengthening your relationship, one expression of love at a time!

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1) Give Him That One Thing He’s Been Wanting Forever. 

You know, the thing he keeps bringing up over and over? Not even to ask you for it, it’s just so important to him that it comes up often.

For my husband, it’s tools, a new scope for his rifle, and a smoker.

Of course, I can’t afford all three, but if I can get just one thing for him that he really wants, not only will it show that I want to sacrifice to get him an amazing gift but it also shows that I love him enough to listen to his wants and needs. 

What if your husband wants something that you know nothing about?? That makes shopping really tough. I often have to ask my husband’s friends or his brother for help to make sure I buy the right thing. 🙂 And always keep the receipt just in case! 

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2) Give Him your Time.

Find an activity that’s out of the ordinary routine for you two. Make it just for you and him- no kids!

Yep, that means a little homework for you. Track down a babysitter, make sure your calendar is free of any outside events, put your phone down. No distractions! Today is JUST for him! 

  • A picnic
  • Go stargazing
  • Rent a 4-wheeler, Snowmobile, or a Razor
  • Spend a night at a hotel!
  • Play his favorite video game with him
  • Buy a Movie Pass

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  • Go hiking
  • Ride in a hot air balloon
  • Have a photo shoot
  • If you can afford it, plan a vacation or a getaway together!
  • Go skydiving
  • Go zip lining
  • Rent his dream car for a day
  • Go kayaking
  • Bungee Jump off a bridge!
  • Go whitewater rafting
  • Have great conversation!

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  • Commit to continue to spend time together!

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3) Give Him a New Skill. 

A great way to give meaningful gifts is to think of gifts as memories instead of objects. What amazing memories could you give your man this Valentine’s Day?

  • Improv Course
  • Go to the gun range and learn to shoot
  • Rock climbing class
  • Fly a helicopter
  • Golf lessons
  • Learn to fly fish
  • Cooking, art, self-improvement, writing, ANYTHING he’s interested in!

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4) Give Him a Quiet Night at Home. 

Some guys don’t want all the adventure and excitement. Sometimes, he’s exhausted from the day to day and the best thing you could possibly do is give him the gift of rest! 

Of course, that doesn’t mean your Valentine’s Day has to be boring. Try some of these ideas for an exciting night in!

  • Play a board game or card game. Bring out the competitive side in each other!
  • Candle lit dinner (Take out or delivery please!)
  • Cook together
    • Try a new recipe
    • Have a Cook Off!
    • Try cooking or eating with silly utensils. Can you eat spaghetti with salad tongs or drink from a pitcher??
    • Choose 5 random items at the grocery store and make a meal including all 5 things!
  • Research something you’ve always wanted to learn, a place you’ve always wanted to visit, or an experience you’ve always wanted to try!
  • Indoor Mini Golf!
  • Do a puzzle
  • Build a fort together
  • Read to each other
  • Take a bubble bath together
  • Create a bucket list for your relationship!
  • Connect on a deeper level by asking each other questions

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5) Give Him Sex.

Let’s be real, men love to have fun in the bedroom. (So do women…)

I can’t think of a better night to put that little black thing on for your hunk than February 14!

And on this note… there’s a ton of super fun sexy games for couples to play just to keep things spicy! If you want a fun and exciting gift for your man, check out some of these awesome links!! Just click the images below!

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6) Give Him Food.

Everyone loves food! Here’s some ideas to put a twist on boring boxes of chocolates.

  • Go to a tasting (whiskey, bourbon, wine, whatever!)
  • Make your own tasting at home with all his favorite foods or drinks
  • Roast marshmallows (over a fire or over the stove)
  • Try a new food that neither of you have ever had!
  • Try authentic foods from all over the world! Experience a variety of cultures!
  • Go restaurant hopping! Have appetizers at one location, then a main course at another location, and dessert somewhere else!
  • Go restaurant hopping but only order appetizers and drinks at each place
  • Use your best coupons! See if you can get a great meal for free or super inexpensive!!

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7) Give Him the Gift of Appreciation.

Find a clever way to tell him how much he means to you, how grateful you are for him, and all the reasons why you love him! 

Here’s some great ideas:

  • Heart Attack: Leave hearts with a kind thought about your partner on each one. Make so many that they cover his car, or the bathroom mirror, or the bed, or his front door, or whatever!
  • Send a special card or note to his office. Special delivery!
  • Make a scrapbook of your favorite moments together and tell him why you love each memory with him
  • Write down all the kind things he does for you for a week. Give him the list and tell him how much it all meant to you!
  • Text him often throughout the day
  • Write down 100 things you love about him and give him the list
  • Put a note in his lunch telling him how important he is to you and why
  • Create a photo book with captions explaining why each picture is significant to your relationship
  • Write down all the ways he turns you on and give him the list
  • Create a “Story of Us” with simple images (even stick figures). Include all the things that made you fall in love with him and things you have overcome together
  • Hide post it notes in places he will find them (in a shoe, in his wallet, on the mirror, in the fridge) with kind words for him
  • Create a video or slideshow full of amazing things about your partner
  • Keep a journal together or individually of all the experiences that grow your relationship. Share it with him. Enjoy looking back at how far you’ve come together!
  • Write a message in lipstick on the mirror
  • For at least a week before Valentine’s, tell him one thing you love about him before you go to bed. This will build the love and suspense for a great Valentine’s Day!
  • Tell your friends and family how amazing your man is when your man is around and when he isn’t! It will get back to him, and it means a lot.

woman on bike reaching for man's hand behind her also on bike

8) Give Him the Gift of Chores Done!

Sometimes, the worst part of the day is when you get home from work and you’re exhausted, but there’s still a ton to get done at home. 

No rest for the wicked!

This is especially annoying on Valentine’s Day when you are supposed to spend all your time loving on each other, not doing chores!

Help your man out by finding a way to help him with his chores in advance. This will take some pressure off of him, make your night more relaxing for both of you, and show him that you are willing to make sacrifices for his well being. 

It’s not easy. After all, you’ve got your own job and household chores to do! But that’s what makes this a great way to show you care.

Stay up a little later the night before, arrange to leave work an hour early, or ask a friend to watch the kids for a while so that you can do the prep work necessary to kick off your Valentine’s Day with a bang!

As soon as he walks in the door, there’s nothing else to think about but each other. 

Here’s some acts of service that mean a lot to my man:

  • Wash the car
  • Clean house
  • Firewood stacked (we use a wood stove as our primary heat source)
  • Dishes done
  • Snow shoveled
  • Laundry folded and put away
  • Lawn mowed (if you live in a warm location)
  • Kids fed and hopefully off to the babysitter’s house

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Those of you who are familiar with the 5 Love Languages might have caught on that at least one of these ideas covers each love language. 

  • Quality Time- #1, 3, 4, 5, 7
  • Words of Affirmation- #7
  • Physical Touch- #4, 5
  • Receiving Gifts- #2, 3, 5
  • Acts of Service- #6, 8

No matter what your man’s love language is, he’s bound to feel appreciated, loved, respected, wanted, and committed when you treat him to an awesome day that’s just for him!

Especially on Valentine’s Day- the day he thought was just for you.

Need more information? Check out 45 Perfect Valentine’s Day Gifts for Him by  and 

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

 

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Steps to be a Friend Without Owning Other Mama's Problems

6 Steps to Be a Friend… Without Owning Other Mama’s Problems

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Have you ever had a friend who was particularly needy? You know, the kind of friend that seems to take a little (or a lot) more energy, emotional strength, and time from you?

It can be difficult to balance these kinds of friendships. Not only are we busy mamas, but it can be emotionally exhausting to support others (emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually, or in any other way) for an extended period of time.

But you’re a good person and you love your dear friend, even if they do need a lot from you right now.

You want to help in any way you can.

You would never ever give up on them!

So how is a busy mom supposed to balance these friendships in such a way that will be supportive and loving to the person, but also not emotionally draining to you?? 

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1) Let Their Problems Go After the Conversation is Over

I had a friend that I loved dearly. She would confide in me deep problems from her past that continued to scar her present- abuse, phobias, poor family relationships, and more.

I had never faced challenges as intense as hers, and I felt terrible that she had to deal with that! I felt so bad about it that I just couldn’t stop thinking about her problems even after the conversation had ended.

After a while, her problems were constantly on my mind. I wanted to think of everything I could possibly to do fix them, to help out, to save her.

The problem is, she wasn’t looking for a savior. 

She just needed a little love. 

All she wanted from me was a shoulder to cry on, and then she was good! That meant that the only person stressing and stewing was me! 

I learned that other people’s problems really are their own. Those problems aren’t mine, even if that person chooses to share them with me. I can sympathize and offer comfort without adding an unnecessary burden to my own shoulders. 

Have a great conversation, help as you can, then let it go.

This was really difficult for me to do at first. I found that if I offered specific help to my friend (“Please, please call me if you need to talk again.” or “I want to hear how you are doing with this. Will you please let me know if the situation changes?”) then I could relax. I had done everything I could do and the ball was in her court.

After all, my friend is an adult and a very capable person. Why shouldn’t I trust her to handle her situation with poise? 

two men having conversation while walking

2) Ask What They Need

This brings me to my next point. In this situation with my dear friend, I assumed I knew what she wanted from me. I assumed she wanted a solution, a cure, a fix.

But she didn’t.

That wasn’t her intention in telling me the things she did. All she wanted was support.

When your friends confide in you, they might be looking for one or a few of the following things: 

  • Advice
  • Emotional Support or Comfort
  • A Solution 
  • A Poll (You might be one of many friends being told the same information to see if there is common consensus about what to do now)
  • Pros and Cons (Help to think through the good and bad consequences of a particular course of action)
  • Brainstorming (Ideas of what can be done)
  • Understanding (Helping you know where they are coming from or why they think the way they do)
  • To Inform you of a Life Decision (Bad time to give advice- they already know what they’re doing!)
  • To Strengthen your Relationship (Sharing details of your life that other people don’t know can deepen the friendship or can mark a milestone in your friendship)

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3) Allow Them the Pride and Satisfaction of Finding their Own Solutions

I remember a sweet girl that I worked with came to me once to ask if I thought she should get a divorce or not. I had learned a few things by then, so I didn’t assume I knew her intentions.

I dug a little deeper and I found out that she was conducting a poll of sorts. She was asking as many people as she could what they thought to see if the majority seemed to agree one way or the other.

(By the way, I really don’t encourage this method. By the time this poor girl came to me, she was so discouraged and confused because she had heard so much advice that she couldn’t sort through it all!)

I was blown away that she was even asking me. We weren’t that close and I really didn’t know her or her situation well enough to have a valid opinion.

So instead of tell her one way or the other, I told her that my only opinion on the matter was that she shouldn’t take anyone else’s advice. 

I told her that she is the only one out of all these people who was going to have to live with her decision, so she should be the only one to make the choice. I suggested that she go back to the basics, think about the positives and negatives in her relationship, take whatever time she needed to think it over, and make a well-thought out decision. 

I never did find out what she decided (again, we really weren’t that close) but I’ll never forget the look in her eyes as I told her these things.


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It was like she was empowered. 

All the sudden, her survey of people didn’t matter. She was able to own her solution to the problem, and that gave her strength. 

Don’t rob people of that. Offer advice, encouragement, ideas, solutions, pros and cons, or whatever the person needs- but always, always, always give them the satisfaction of solving their own problems.

Don’t try to do it for them.

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4) Find Simple Ways to Lift Them Up

If your poor friend is acting “needy”, there’s probably a good reason for that.

Every single person around me (in the grocery store, in the gym, driving in the car next to me, or at the restaurant) is going through something. Always. 

Give others the benefit of the doubt, assume that they mean well and that their reasons for acting the way they do is perfectly valid. 

In our case, you can help to lift your friend in simple ways that won’t overload you. Go have lunch together, leave her some cookies on her doorstep, play a card game together, watch a movie, send her a note or a text, forward a funny meme, watch her kids for an hour so she can have some alone time, whatever works for you!

Just go back to the basics and be a friend. Friendship isn’t stressful, it’s fun! Find that again in your relationship. 

two woman under white and black blanket

5) Remember that They are Still Themselves

In most cases, needy friends are only needy temporarily. That’s because it’s situations and life stresses that make us needy, and thank goodness those come and go.

Don’t forget who it is that you’re talking about here– they are a great friend, a wonderful person to be around, a ton of fun. They just need a little extra help for a bit.

Who better to step in than you? You’re a great friend, you have awesome advice to give, you know what you’re talking about, you’ve experienced things and have a ton to offer!

Sometimes when all that gets emotionally draining, it’s nice to just remember that it’s temporary. Your friend will get back to their old self soon. And if not, they’ll be even better than they were before!

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6) Make Some Time for You in the Relationship

I used to think that I wasn’t allowed to talk about myself if a friend was going through a challenge. I used to think that this is their time and I shouldn’t interrupt. 

I recently had an experience that changed my perception. I was keeping my mouth shut about me and trying to be a good listener to a friend in need.

Her reaction surprised me.

After a long time of her telling me about her problems, about her family, about whatever she wanted to talk about, she finally said, “Ok, seriously, why aren’t you saying anything?” 

I was so confused. It wasn’t like I’d been silent, I just wasn’t bringing up stuff from my life because I thought that this was her time.

She said, “No, I want to hear about you too! It’s not like I need more time to focus on my crappy life.” 

I learned that day that there is another thing  friends might be looking for in a conversation: a distraction. 

Sometimes, it’s a great idea to talk about your normal, boring, routine life. It can take your friend’s attention off of their struggles while also filling your needs to be an active part of the friendship. 

Your needs are filled, their needs are filled.

Win win!

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Test out these methods. Find what works for you, and share with the rest of us! 

Do you have any other great tips for being a good friend without owning other people’s problems? Let’s hear them! Comment below!! 

Need more? Check out this awesome post- How to Be A Good Friend (And Signs to Avoid Being a Bad One) 

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

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Sunshine Blogger Award Nomination

Sunshine Blogger Award Nomination!!!

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You’ll never guess who just got nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award! That’s right, me! Woo hoo!

I feel so blessed! I’ve been working really hard to bring great information to all the moms out there, so it feels good to be recognized!

Big Thank You!

Before I go any further, I need to give a HUGE SHOUT OUT to Pointless Overthinking for the nomination!!

You’ve got to check out this blog! It’s a great creative look into life. What things are necessary and what things just aren’t?? Great ideas about simplifying, being positive about yourself, self-improvement, what things are actually worth doing, etc. These are important topics for every mom to consider!

I’m super excited to participate in the Sunshine Blogger Award process. What a fun way to get to know lots of other great bloggers, and also to share some valuable resources with my awesome followers!

So here’s how it works:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to their blog so others can find them – You’re the bomb Pointless Overthinking!!!
  2. Answer the questions asked by the blogger who nominated you.
  3. Nominate other bloggers and ask them new questions.
  4. Notify the nominees about it on one of their own posts.
  5. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo on your post and/or your blog site.

The Questions I was Asked:

Here we go! Here are the questions that I was asked! I am super excited to share a little more about myself with my followers and visitors to my site!!

1. If you got a “Do-Over” card for any event in your life, would you use it?

Nah! I’m a firm believer in learning through mistakes. When I look back through my life, I see how each step I took led me to the next. If I changed any piece of it, I’d be a completely different person now. I’m happy with who I am and who I’m working to be in the future, so no, I don’t think I would use it.

Well, hang on, maybe for something small, like maybe I’d kiss my husband sooner when we were dating or something like that!

2. What do you think is more likely for an Armageddon scenario- Nuclear Disaster, Zombie Outbreak or Worldwide Plague?

Zombies all the way! I’ve already got my escape plan in place. No spoilers though!

3. Follow up to Question 2- What 3 things do you grab when you hear that your chosen scenario has happened?

-My kids

-My 72-hour survival kit (yes, I have one of those!)

-My stash of chocolate

4. What is your favorite thing about the decade that defines your generation? (i.e., 90’s for Gen X)

Gel pens! Remember those?? I love those. They were all the rage in middle school, and I’ve just never got over them. Love me some gel pens. Especially when they’re sparkly!

5. Why did you begin blogging?

I made the transition from a working mom to a stay at home mom. I loved the work I did with children, and love being a mommy even more! But I felt a little empty. I wasn’t using my education and experience except in my own home. I missed getting to help other moms and families by sharing what I know. Solution- a professional mommy blog! I’ve loved it!

6. What do you think is the best thing about being an adult?

I get to eat whatever I want! If I feel like cake for breakfast, cake for breakfast it is! If I want to dip into my secret chocolate stash at 2am, I will! I can blow bubbles in my chocolate milk, and eat an entire can of Pringles in one sitting, and eat ice cream right out of the container. It’s the best!!!

7. What do you think is the biggest disappointment about being an adult?

Stupid money. I wish I didn’t need it, but I just can’t find a way around it.

Oh, and also taxes. It’s like highway robbery.

8. Favorite 80’s cult classic movie?

Back to the future! Love it! “Nobody calls me chicken!”

9. Your favorite reading genre and author?

I’m a nerd… It’s ok, I’ve accepted it. I love me some John Gottman. He is an expert on family relationships and writes about his research findings. I love his work about parenting (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child) and marriage (The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work).

Click on these links to check out my FAVORITE Gottman books!



10. What is the most important life lesson you want to share with your children? (or dog, cat or other pet of choice)

I want my kids to have their priorities straight. That’s something that took me a while to figure out. I learned that life just isn’t about careers or recognition or money. It’s all about family. There’s just no happiness until a person figures that out, so I hope my kids can learn that from me rather than learn it the hard way.

 

My Questions for My Nominees:

  1. What was your most embarrassing moment?
  2. What clique were you in during high school? Were you popular, in the band, a jock, etc.?
  3. If you didn’t need to sleep, what would you do with your time?
  4. What is one of your pet peeves?
  5. If you didn’t have your current job, what would your second choice of career be?
  6. If you won the lottery, what would be your first purchase?
  7. What was your favorite pet and why?
  8. What is something that you have always wanted to try?
  9. If you were going to be one age forever, what age would you choose?
  10. What is your favorite part about blogging?

Amazing Bloggers that I Want to Nominate:

I have been blown away by so many amazing bloggers out there. I can’t possibly nominate everyone that I would love to nominate… But here are a few!

I absolutely encourage everyone to check out these blogs!

To my nominees: I can’t wait to hear your answers to my questions! Thanks for your great work and fabulous resources on each of your blogs!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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Universal Truths to Live a Happy Life NOW

27 Universal Truths to Live a Happy Life NOW!

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Life is wonderful, but hard. There’s so many bad, scary things out there- death, abuse, addiction, conflict, war, deceit, divorce, abandonment, and more.

How is a person to live happily in a troubled world?

Here are 27 tips to help you keep your chin up and find the beauty within the chaos.

1. Have gratitude.

When we focus on the bad things, we often forget about the amazing blessings all around us. If we stop to notice the good things in our life, we can be surprised by how much we have!

The first step to living a happy life is to realize that you already have it- you just need to appreciate it for what it is.

2. Put on a Smile!

Smiles make people feel happy. That’s not just me talking. Research has proven that smiling triggers endorphins to be released in your brain, causing you to be happier!

Ding Li shared on the British Council, “When our brain feels happy, endorphins are produced and neuronal signals are transmitted to your facial muscles to trigger a smile. This is the start of the positive feedback loop of happiness. When our smiling muscles contract, they fire a signal back to the brain, stimulating our reward system, and further increasing our level of happy hormones, or endorphins. In short, when our brain feels happy, we smile; when we smile, our brain feels happier.”

So smile, even if it’s fake. Since smiles spread like wildfire, you might help someone else feel happier too!

3. Love yourself.

Everyone has amazing qualities.

What are yours? Write them down, congratulate yourself for them, repeat your positive qualities to yourself often, and reward yourself when you develop new ones.

Be proud of who you are and who you are becoming.

person standing on hill

4. Remember that other people’s opinions of you don’t matter.

We all know that we shouldn’t listen to peer pressure. That’s much easier said than done. The interesting thing is that these fears are usually our own construction. People usually aren’t actually thinking those things about us- we just think they’re thinking those things about us.

It’s our problem- not theirs.

Honestly letting go of those unnecessary cares lifts a burden from your shoulders. It makes your life feel free.

5. Live by the Golden Rule.

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Being nice is important. A life full of malice, backstabbing, anger, and broken relationships isn’t fun. It’s just lonely and sad. Whatever people think they have to gain from being rude, it’s never as good as what they can lose.

Choose to be nice.

6. Hug your kids, your spouse, your friends, and your parents often.

People are all that matter in life.

Jobs come and go, houses eventually fall down, money can be lost. All that we can count on are the people that we value. Build those relationships by putting the people in your life first. Create memories together.

“Love is spelled TIME.” -Zig Ziglar

man and woman hugging each other photography

7. Live in the real world.

When you look back after one, or two, or three hours of TV/video games/cell phone use/social media, what did you gain from that time?

Did you learn something new? Did you connect with friends? Did you build yourself into a better person?

Sometimes technology can help us do those things, but sometimes it can distract us and be a huge time-waster. Pay attention in your own life so that you don’t miss out on quality experiences in exchange for an hour of Candy Crush or Angry Birds.

8. Stop being afraid.

Let go of fear by accepting that growth comes with repetitive (but temporary!) setbacks.

Fear of those setbacks holds us back. Don’t be afraid of failure!

Let yourself try something new, even if you’re no good at it at first. Don’t be afraid to put in the time and effort necessary to excel at a new skill.

9. Manage your finances using a budget.

Finances are an important part of our daily lives. They can cause enormous amounts of stress, or they can provide freedom and amazing opportunities.

Take control of your finances by using a budget in order to improve your quality of life.

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10. Don’t spread yourself too thin.

Parents, this is especially a challenge for you.

You’ve got to take care of yourselves! You’re in charge of keeping your household running, your kids cared for, food on the table and money in the bank. If you drive yourself crazy because you never had a break, who’s going to do all that for your family? No one!

Make sure your needs are being met, for the sake of your family.

11. Grow what you have.

Life is full of chances to grow exponentially.

Watch for opportunities to invest. This could be money, but it could also be time savers, work opportunities, learning a new skill, or mastering a current skill.

Invest in yourself and invest in the stock market.

12. Be prepared for emergencies.

I’ve realized that everyone I know is going through something big. Constantly. I was surprised when I finally put that together. It seems like some people are cozy and happy and live a perfect life, but I just don’t know them well enough to know what their current challenge is.

So if life is constantly throwing curve balls our way, why don’t I prepare for them?

Have an emergency fund, have safety plans, have backup supplies. Be ready, because life’s struggles are constant.

13. Make your goals happen!

I have always appreciated a person who does what he says. Even when it’s just a personal commitment that doesn’t impact other people.

When you set goals, consider them a binding covenant with yourself to complete something you started.

If you need help writing effective goals, check out this post: The Secret to Foolproof Goals.

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14. Read.

Books are amazing. They are cheap fun, they help you see other perspectives, increase your vocabulary, they teach you new things, they build your memory skills, they encourage you to think critically, they teach moral principles.

In today’s world, you can even listen to audio books while you clean the house, nurse the baby, or eat dinner. Enjoy books to build yourself.


Other Great Reads: 

Over 35 Guilty Pleasures for Moms that I’m NOT ABOUT to Stop!

AMAZING Miracle of Moms- Let’s All Be That Mom Every Day

Shut Down the Mommy Guilt by Teaching Kids Through Your Own Failures

What About Me? Parents- Take Care of Yourselves!


15. Learn something new.

I firmly believe that every bit of knowledge a person can gain will have some important use someday.

You never run out of storage space for more knowledge, it’s easily accessible online through blog posts like this one and YouTube… there are literally no downsides- knowledge can only help you. The world is at your fingertips!

Learn something new today!

16. Have a positive outlook on life.

Don’t give up on people who disappoint you. They’ll come around.

Don’t fret about the small things because there’s always more good than bad.

Don’t neglect the good things that are happening around you.

Do look forward to what’s coming next, because it will be an exciting adventure!

17. Smell the roses.

Live intentionally. Know what you’re about. Know what you like, what you dislike, what you want, what you are becoming.

Notice the small things around you that are part of daily life that bring you happiness. After all, they can only make you happy if you are paying attention.

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18. Keep your body healthy.

Drink water, eat healthy (but allow yourself some treats), be active by going outside and playing with your kids, eat until you’re full and then stop eating.

Learn to listen to your body’s cues and respect them.

19. Don’t worry about keeping up with the newest and best.

The drive to be better can be consuming. It is a good thing to want to be better as a person, but it is unhealthy to focus on constantly upgrading things.

Life isn’t about things. Things don’t bring joy- people do. So get out of the rat race. Let go of the things.

Fix it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.

20. Get out of the comfort zone.

Growth and achievement don’t happen in the comfort zone. They happen when you get uncomfortable, when things change, when life hurts, when you work hard.

21. Have fun without spending a ton of money.

There are so many ways to enjoy leisure without breaking the bank. I can hardly afford to go to the movies anymore. I pay $8 per person to get in, $12 for snacks, $10 for sodas, and now I’ve spent my play money for the whole month.

Learn to have fun right where you are, with the people who are always there, without any extra planning or preparation. Need some ideas? Click here!

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22. Sleep!

Our bodies and minds need sleep. If we can’t function, how are we supposed to enjoy our day?

Take care of your sleep needs and you’ll feel happier and more efficient.

23. Have new experiences.

Sometimes, the hardest part of life is monotony. It can just drag on. You do the same thing day in and day out.

People need a little excitement! Switch it up for yourself by trying something new.

24. Organize your home, your schedule, and your life.

Just the opposite of monotony- People are creatures of habit. We like routine. Creating predictability can be comforting. We know what to expect, we feel secure.

Make a schedule for yourself, or a more organized home, or plan your week to give yourself more security.

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25. Write down all the details of your amazing life!

Even if your life seems boring or routine to you, other people are going to want to know what you were all about. Especially your kids and grandkids.

People don’t journal anymore, but we should! It’s a way to be immortal, a way to be involved in your family for generations, a way to teach life lessons so others don’t have to learn them the hard way.

And it gives perspective to your life now. Instead of getting swallowed up in the day to day, writing in a journal reminds me of my end goals and refocuses me on how to get there.

26. Discuss important topics as a family.

Families should hold regular “meetings” with each other. This is an important time for

  • every individual to speak their mind,
  • discuss important topics that affect the family,
  • gather ideas to solve problems,
  • address the family’s needs, and
  • connect with each other.

Having regular family time like this will increase your family closeness.

27. Forgive.

Grudges weigh people down. They are unproductive, unnecessary baggage in an already difficult journey. Just get rid of them!

They aren’t helping you, or anyone else. It’s time to forgive.

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These 27 tips are all things I have tried in my life, and they all work. Give them a try, and let us know how it goes in the comments below!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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I love my kids. I really really really do.

But it can get old to be interrupted from the luxury of me-time after only 5 minutes– Every. Single. Time.

The other afternoon, I tried to catch some leisure by turning on a show, curling onto the couch under my fuzziest blanket, and playing sudoku on my phone. The remote in one hand and a bag of M&M’s in the other, I was in heaven. For about 8 minutes until my daughter woke up unexpectedly early from her nap.

Of course.

I think kids come equipped with a radar for when mom is relaxing.

It’s like a horror movie when it’s unreal quiet around, and you know something bad is about to happen. And yet, you jump every time when the bad guy pops out.

For some reason, I don’t learn. I still jump every time my sweet cuties pull me out of my daydream world of relaxation and slap be back into cold, hard reality.

But I’ll keep trying to get a little more down time! Although I love my children and the time I have with them, I understand that I deserve these few moments of peace and serenity doing the things that I love, the things that speak to my soul, the things that keep me going.

Please comment below- What are your mommy-specific guilty pleasures?? How do you keep your mom life and your personal life balanced?

I’m no quitter- and I’m not about to start now. Here’s all my guilty pleasures as a mom that I plan to continue- indefinitely:

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1. After Bedtime Happy Dance

I hope my kids never see this because I might hurt a few feelings. I’m just really excited for my quiet, blissful evening to begin.

2. Sleep

Sleeping in, naps, early bedtimes… Any and all sleep I can get. Even just one night without waking up at least once would be fantastic. I’ll always treasure any and all sleep that I can get.

3. Leaving Dad with the Kids Even Though I Have Nowhere to Be

Poor guy. There are days when he gets home from work and I’m so ready to pass that baton. “I’m off to anywhere!”

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4. Sneaking the Best Treats From the Kitchen so that I Don’t Have to Share Them

As a kid, I knew to watch my dad. If I ever caught him casually walk out the garage door holding a spoon, I knew he was sneaking ice cream from the freezer in the garage.

All I had to do was follow quietly.

If he was caught, he would rather share ice cream with you. Better that than have all of his kids alerted that the ice cream was being eaten and descend like vultures.

5. Shutting Myself in My Room for NO Reason

Just to breathe and recoup. I love my room.

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6. Not Adjusting Bedtime At Daylight Savings

There’s this one magical thing that happens at daylight savings time in the Spring. Your child is used to going to bed at 8pm… But when the time changes, he’s tired at 7 instead of 8. So bedtime is now at 7.

Take that, universe, I win!

Note- this only works once per year. In the Fall, the child isn’t tired for an hour after bedtime, so the universe will take its revenge.

7. Go the Whole Day Without Putting My Bra On

Ahhhhhhh. Freedom.

8. Fast Food Runs 15 Minutes Before Dinner Time

Someday I’ll plan out my meals… But not today.

9. Hidden Candy and Chocolate Just For Me

Lindor truffles are for moms only.

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10. Binge-Watching My Favorite Shows on Netflix

This only works at night time. See you in 4 hours!

11. Game Nights with the Girls

Girls’ nights are the best! They get you, they know what you need, and they’re all the in same boat.

It’ll be Ticket to Ride and Scrabble for the next 4 hours!

12. Caffeine

Dr. Pepper is my favorite guilty pleasure.

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13. Eating Way More Ice Cream Than I Want to Admit To

Like, way more.

14. Eating Ice Cream Straight Out of the Container When I Finally Give Up On Manageable Portions

It’s just not worth it to dish up that many servings. Better to just take the whole container with me to the couch so that I don’t have to get up again.

15. Adding Chocolate and Caramel Syrup to My Already Insane Amounts of Ice Cream

I’ve already accepted that 5 pounds I’ll gain by tomorrow.


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16. Googling New Skills That I Know I’ll Never Really Learn

When I grow up, I’ll be an artist, and a gardener, and a writer, and a cosmetologist, and a chef, and a…..

17. Making the Kids A Lame (But Easy to Prepare) Dinner… Then Waiting To Eat Until They are Done Eating So that I Can Eat Something Better

I really don’t want to eat Macaroni and Cheese. But they will… Unless they see a better option.

All it takes is a little patience, and I’ll be eating well tonight without the effort to make a full meal for the family.

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18. Putting My Bath Bomb Collection to Good Use

See you in an hour!

19. Getting Distracted On Social Media For Long Periods of Time

Woops. On the plus side, I actually know what’s going on in the world around me!

20. That Gut Wrenching Moment When I Snap Back Into Reality and Realize How Much Time has Passed

Ooops. What trouble have my kids been getting into while I’ve been distracted??

21. Saying “They’ll Be Fine” When I Am Too Tired to Stop the Kids from Whatever They Shouldn’t Be Doing

Sometimes it’s just not worth it.

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22. Letting the House Stay Dirty

It’s not that bad!

23. Having Second Helpings of Dinner… Or Dessert

Just a little more please…

24. Staying in My PJ’s All Day

A happy life is finding the perfect balance between looking amazing on some days (so that you have good self-confidence) and never getting dressed on some days (so that you don’t go crazy trying to be perfect).


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Click any of the pictures to enhance your guilty pleasure relaxation experiences!

-Bath Bomb Set

-Neck and Shoulder Massager

-Assorted Lindor Truffles

-Silk Pajamas

-Ticket To Ride (My favorite game for a girls’ night)


 

25. Putting the Kids to Bed 20 Minutes Early On Occasion

There are times that I’m just done. And my kids are still too young to understand time…. They always say that time will go fast.

And it will. Someday, school will ruin this luxury by teaching my kids valuable life lessons of how to read a clock and manage time.

But for now, they don’t get it and that gives me the advantage.

So… In bed they go- 20 minutes early.

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26. Making Up Answers When I Don’t Know Them

Kids think we know more than we do. It’s flattering in a way. I like to think I know a lot. But every once and a while, I’m grossly humbled when they stump me.

Good thing I have an imagination that fills in the blanks. And I still look smart.

27. Wear Leggings to the Store Because They’re the Closest Socially Acceptable Wardrobe to Pajamas

I just want to FEEL like I’m in my pajamas even if I can’t be. Is that too much to ask??

28. Paint My Nails Crazy Colors

Fun, fun, fun!

Who cares if it only matches my outfit for one day and then I’m stuck with them for a week??

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29. Call and Chat with My Mom for an Hour

I miss that lady. Is there anything I have to do in the next 60 minutes?? Break time!

30. Swear Like a Sailor

Let’s let all that built up frustration go in one long stream of curses.

31. Complain about My Kids to Other Moms When their Behavior is Tough to Handle

Again, let’s let the built up frustration go. Take II. Actually, this and swearing like a sailor often go hand in hand.

32. Pin Funny Mom Jokes

Even when they’re a little dicey… Actually, the dicey-er the funnier.

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33. Google Healthy Meals that I’ll Never Cook

Come on.

Why do I kid myself?

34. Spend Money on Myself

Amazon has a genius business plan targeted to me personally.

I’m the reason they’re rich… and the reason I’m not!!

35. Take the Batteries Out of that Toy that’s Been Driving Me Crazy… Even Though My Kid LOVES It

“What? It’s not working? That’s weird, it worked a second ago… Oh well.”

36. Never Shave My Legs… Until I Have To

My husband likes to fondly compare me to a cactus. It’s ok, I know who I am.

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37. Soak Up Adult Conversations When I Can Get Them

Like a sponge.

There’s only so much Dora the Explorer and Itsy Bitsy Spider that I can take. I want to think and philosophize and challenge myself here and there.

Or just hear about everyone’s opinions of The Bachelor. That’s good too.

Please comment below- What are your mommy-specific guilty pleasures?? How do you keep your mom life and your personal life balanced?

So moms, now you know all my guilty little secrets… that I fully intend to continue.

I hope you treat yo self to some little perks in life too.

It’s worth it, and you’re worth it.

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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