Must Have Pieces of Quality Family Time to Keep Your Family Together Forever

7 Must-Have Pieces of Quality Family Time to Keep Your Family Together Forever!

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TRIVIA: On average, how much quality time do American families spend together per day???

(Scroll to the bottom of the post for the answer!)

 

Families in our world today face many challenges- but none so great as the lack of time together. 

  • Moms and dads work,
  • kids are involved in after-school activities or sports or clubs,
  • the house has to be maintained,
  • someone’s got to make dinner,
  • the laundry needs washed,
  • the dishes need cleaned.

There are so many things competing for our attention that it’s easy to get distracted and forget those people who are most important to us- our kids, our spouse, our parents, our siblings, our cousins, our grandparents…

If you fall into that category, don’t fear! You can keep your family together by making whatever time you do have with your family QUALITY time. Even if it’s just an hour each evening after work.

It’s just like a puzzle- if you have all the pieces, everything fits together naturally. BUT- If you’re missing one of the vital elements, you’re not achieving your end goal of having successful quality family time.

Here’s the recipe: four vital attitudes and three vital activities to incorporate into your family time to achieve QUALITY family time. 

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Attitude 1: Respect

Now, don’t stress if you’ve got teenagers at home. Sometimes it seems like you’ll never have respect in your family time with teens around.

Remember that the only person you have control over is you. If you set the example of respect, people around you will follow. 

Ideas to show respect at home:

  • Try to see from your children’s perspective. Every child, no matter their age, has real reasons for why they act the way they do. If you can see that, you can respond in a respectful way that meets their needs.
  • Pay close attention when your family members talk to you. That means eye contact! I know, it’s so much easier to listen while you scrub the dishes or throw a load of laundry into the wash. But doing other things shows the child or your spouse that they are #2 in your life. And they’re not! They’re #1 all the way!
  • Value their opinions. 
  • Treat your kids and spouse like you treat your friends. The other day, I fell asleep on the couch after a long day. My poor toddler was potty training and had a bit of a sick tummy. She tried to wake me up, but I told her mommy was sleeping and she needed to let me rest. When I woke up a little bit later, I found out that she had an accident because she needed my help to go potty!! Poor girl!!! I am quick to offer help to my friends, and I NEVER ignore them (even if I were sleeping!) but I didn’t help my child and ignored her legitimate need. It’s ok because I learned from it and I’ll be a little better tomorrow than I was today.

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Attitude 2: Forgiveness

Have you ever felt like it’s easier to hold a grudge at home than in other relationships? I guess you kind of HAVE to forgive people at work because you’ve got to come in to the office and be civil every day or you’ll be fired.

Nobody’s going to fire you from being a parent.

But that doesn’t mean there aren’t big consequences for holding grudges in the home.

Ideas to show forgiveness at home:

  • Never being up old offenses. If you’ve truly forgiven, then they’re gone from your mind completely.
  • Don’t keep score. Families aren’t about winning or losing. Tallies of good and bad behaviors are hurtful. We love each other equally no matter what the score board says.
  • Show love quickly after a family member hurts you. The faster things are solved, the better. Make it happen!
  • Always believe in your family, invest in them, show interest in them, sacrifice for them- even when it feels like you’ve given enough. You haven’t. You’ll always be giving and they’ll always be giving back. Take a minute to see all the ways that they are giving back to you! You’ll be amazed!!

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Attitude 3: Love

We all know we should love our family. And we do!

But sometimes the feeling of love in the home gets lost in the shuffle.

Things have to be done, we’re on a time crunch, it’s hard to keep patience. But when we recenter on what’s really important, it’s not so hard after all.

Ideas to show love at home:

  • Speak in a kind voice. Your tone and volume can convey love even when you are disciplining or correcting a child… or even during a disagreement with your spouse.
  • Read up on love languages and do something special for each member of your family that fits their love language! I love Love Languages. Basically, it’s a way to tailor your expressions of love in a way that will be well-received by the person you are showing your love to. And I totally believe in them!
    • My husband is a “words of affirmation” guy. I’m not. So he was always giving me lots of compliments and I never realized that I needed to compliment him back to make him feel loved!
  • Make time for each other. I know, the whole goal here is to make the most of our limited time together, but the fact is- the more time you have with your family, the better! Families are just too important to leave up to chance. We don’t just sit back and hope our marriage will make it. We make it work! We don’t just hope our kids will turn out ok. We actively teach them to be responsible citizens! The more family time you have, the better.
    • By the way, everyday family time is WAYYY more important than once in a while family time (like family vacations). Try things like:
      • Taking your spouse on a date every week (even if it’s an in-home date).
      • Having a “family night” once a week and plan a special activity (even if it’s something cheap or FREE).
      • Get involved in your kids’ after school activities, clubs, or sports.
      • Help your kids with their homework.
      • Involve the kids in the household chores. They’ll get done faster (which means more fun time together) and the kids will learn important skills.

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Attitude 4: Compassion

Compassion is understanding other people’s problems, feelings, concerns, stresses, and misfortunes.

It’s caring enough to ask, and knowing enough to thoroughly relate.

It’s true empathy.

Ideas to show compassion in the home:

  • Create a Love Map of each family member’s life. This is a concept developed by John Gottman (see the link) that initially applies to your significant other, but it totally works for kids too!! Basically, if you really love someone, you should know the ins and outs of their life. Things like:
    • Who are your kids’ best friends?
    • What are your kids’ favorite foods?
    • What are your kids’ fears?
    • What are your kids’ goals?
  • Be an Emotion Coach to your children. Another awesome Gottman concept! If you don’t know about emotion coaching, you’ve got to check it out! It’s a scientifically proven method to teach your kids about emotions so that they can understand their own feelings and other people’s feelings. It’s great practice for adults too!
  • Ask each person how their day went, dig deeper, and really listen. That old question “How was your day?” is a great start! It can lead to understanding more about the details of your child’s life. But don’t stop there- ask more questions! Dig deeper! Get a real conversation going! And of course, make eye contact and give the child your full attention when they tell you.
  • Make one-on-one time with each person. Personal topics don’t always come up in front of a group. Even if the person wants to share, the group setting can cause them to stay quiet. If you make time for each child to have one-on-one time with you, they are more likely to open up about their individual struggles.

 

Ok, let’s get to the nitty gritty!!! You’ve got your family all gathered together. You’ve got the TV off. You’re all staring at each other…

Now what??

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Activity 1: Discussions

Family time doesn’t have to be full of excitement and packed with activities.

Some of my best memories as a kid are of my family gathered in the living room. We’d all be strewn all over. Some of us laying on the floor, some on couches.

There was never enough sitting space for all the people present, so there’d be a few of us on the arms of the couch, a few on the headrests, a couple on other people’s laps, just lounging anywhere we fit.

And then we’d just… talk.

That’s so hard to do nowadays because the TV or our phones keep us entertained. We almost HAD to be bored before we had the best conversations.

And these were amazing teaching opportunities for our parents! They got to talk about the things that are most important to them! They discussed religion, politics, our future, family goals, what things are important to them and why, how to be successful in life, and much more.

Here’s some ideas of topics to discuss as a family:

  • Religion. Or even if you’re not religious, discuss what you believe and why. Don’t forget to let each child form their own opinions and express them!
  • Politics and current events. It’s important for kids to understand specific issues in the world around them. They can start forming opinions of the best solutions and grow to be adults who passionately (and respectfully) defend their political views.
  • Your children’s future! What do they want to be when they grow up? Do they want to be parents? How will they make a difference in the world? Who will they help? What do they need to do or become now to reach their goals?
  • All about your kids!! This is a great time to develop those love maps! Ask all kinds of questions about your kids’ day to day life! Click here for some great Get to Know You questions.
  • Set family goals. My family decided we wanted to go to Disneyland together. There were a lot of kids, so that was no easy task to save enough money. But we set that goal together and then we worked hard to meet that goal! We saved pennies, we contributed money we had earned, we gathered change in WalMart parking lots, anything to gather the money! And then we finally got to go and had a blast!!!
  • What qualities we want to have. Set personal goals, with a whole support system in your family to help you meet those goals! Decide what you want to become, and work toward that goal- but you don’t have to do it alone! And you can inspire the others in your family to be better too.
  • Personal struggles. You’ve got a perfect, loving, non-judgmental, supportive community to bounce ideas off of! Need advice? Need to think through a solution? Family time is the perfect time! It’s amazing how often the kids have the perfect solutions to big adult problems. They really are clever!

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Activity 2: Work

Yes, family time can be used for work… and SHOULD be used for work!

Life isn’t always fun and games. It’s important for kids to learn how to handle difficult thins too. Who better to coach them through that than mom and dad??

So get your kids involved in the work at home, and you get involved in their work tasks!

Here’s some ideas to include work in your family time:

  • Help kids practice! What are your kids involved in? Sports? A musical instrument? Chess? Try it out with them! They can teach you something, you can help them out, and you’ll have family time while checking one thing off the to do list! Not to mention that showing interest in something your child is interested in (even if you’re NOT interested in that thing) really goes a long way!!
  • Do homework together. Even if you don’t know how to do the problems, you can all research it together or maybe one of the other kids know the solution. 🙂
  • Get the chores done. Your kids can and should help with household chores. It’s great for them to learn how to clean a house! They are going to have to care for their own space someday, and it teaches them respect for the things they have. It also creates empathy for you and all the hard work you do for them every day.
  • Take care of the yard. Same story- just outside! Help your kids learn important skills and learn to value what they have!
  • Let older kids care for younger siblings or pets. Most people will become parents some day. Caring for younger siblings is great practice! But there’s an even bigger lesson-caring for siblings teaches kids how to sacrifice for the well-being of another person.
  • Help out a neighbor! When you teach your kids to work hard, help them learn to care for others outside the family too. You are a vital part of your community. You can build your neighborhood up and make it better! Your children will learn the magic of helping out someone in need.
  • Cook dinner together! Follow these links for all you need to know!!!

Activity 3: Fun

This is usually what I think about when I think of family time! FUN!

And it is a great piece of the puzzle- but now we know, it’s not the ONLY piece of the puzzle.

When you have fun, make sure you’re doing something fun for everyone in the family. Choose an activity that will reach out to a struggling family member. Choose an activity that will teach a new skill! Choose an activity that will require family members to work together cooperatively!

Here’s some great ideas of fun family activities!

 

Do you have other great ideas for family time?? Share them in the comments!!!

 

Well, that’s it!!

Go have fun, learn together, grow individually and as a unit!!

You’ll all be stronger and happier as you spend time with your family… as long as you make it QUALITY time!!!

For more information, see The Family: A Proclamation to the World. 

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

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Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

 

Trivia Answer: American families ONLY spend an average of 37 minutes per day of family time. 

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Moms, do you ever look around at your life and think, “Huh… I never thought about it… but what the heck????” 

I sure do.

There’s a lot of weird mommy quirks that we are so used to! But we probably look crazy as all get out to strangers on the street who watch us as we drag our kiddos along to get our errands done.

Here’s a few of the odd… and yet normal… parts of mom life, brought to you by moms who know exactly what you’re experiencing!

1. The Zombie Mode

I know you know what I’m talking about!

That glazed-over, I can’t take another step or deal with another thing, the day is over at 6pm survival mode!

It’s the Zombie Mode that leads to accidental promises like:

“Can I please have spaghetti tacos for dinner??”

“Oh yeah honey, sure. Dinner is soon.”

2. Pee

It squirts everywhere, it soaks into carpet, it defies the laws of gravity, and it always smells. Like forever.

I could sniff out every place where I’ve ever had to clean up pee in my house… like a hound dog. Not that I would need to, those memories are etched into my brain.

3. Poop

Oh, poop.

It’s all normal now.

  • Poop on me,
  • poop up the baby’s back,
  • poop on the toys,
  • poop in the cracks.

One fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish.

4. Memorizing my child’s library.

“Sure sweetie, I’ll read you Green Eggs and Ham. Did you want to actually see the pictures or should I just start reciting?”

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5. That’s Embarrassing…

Or at least, it would be if I cared to stop and think about it…

You know you’re a mom when you don’t flinch at socially inappropriate comments yelled to you across the aisle at the store, or through the bathroom stalls, or over three tables of strangers at a restaurant.

“My wiener looks weird!” is sure to being a gasp and a blush from a rookie, but a seasoned mom just yells right back, “Why are you looking at it HERE??”

6. Oh, Sorry. I Forgot.

“What was that important thing… Oh well, it doesn’t matter.”

Mommy brain is real, people.

And you know what else it is??? A real EXCUSE! Milk that one, mamas!

7. Constant Noise!

“Can you hear me now? Oh well.”

I haven’t participated in a calm, focused, uninterrupted conversation in 12 years.

But I am getting very good at multitasking and filtering out the important stuff, like “I have to pee!”

8. Constant Clutter

The whisk is in the toy bin and the duck tape is in the freezer. Whatever.

You know you’re a real mommy when you take a look around, sigh a little, plop your exhausted butt onto the couch, and turn on Netflix!

Of course- there is one perk to the clutter issue. Next time your kid asks, “Mommy, can I have a new toy?” all you have to say is, “Sure, you just have to find one in your room.”

I promise, there’s a toy in there he didn’t know he owned!

9. Sibling Arguments

“I don’t care who’s right, what matters here is that you two reach a solution on your own… as in, without me.”

Now that’s good parenting full of perks for you! Well done mom!

10. Throw Up

Ok, we’ve already covered pee and poop. Now, we just have to hit puke.

You know what, let’s just make this easy- Moms deal with all bodily fluids. All the time.

Until it’s just like, “Whatever, a little day old, half-digested, full of stomach acid, leftover spaghetti can’t scare ME!” 

And then, one day, you reach that magical age when your kids are old enough to clean up their own puke! And then it’s like, “Whoa, I can’t believe I ever touched that stuff! You have fun with that.” 

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11. An Audience while I Pee

Let’s see… we’ve got the 5 year old asking for snacks, the 3 year old climbing onto my lap, the baby crawling through the cabinets…. and the dog staring at me from the doorway.

Great, everyone’s here. Let’s get started.

12. An Audience while Pooping

You might think this is the same. But it’s very different.

You thought you had stage fright before! Just try to go #2 with all that pressure!

13. I’m a Jungle Gym. It’s Fine.

The sooner you accept it, the happier your life will be. Your identify has changed from an independent woman to the most entertaining of children’s climbing toys.

When I sit on the couch, I’ve got a kid crawling up the headrest and onto my shoulders.

When I lay down, my toddler instantly sits on my forehead.

When I stand, I’m a fire pole.

When I try to run away, I’ve got three kids sitting on each foot. There’s no escape!

14. Did Those Words Just Come Out of MY Mouth?

Oh, the crazy things you never thought you’d say.

Moms are full of, “The dog doesn’t like it when you put your underwear on his head” and “It’s impolite to poop in the neighbor’s tree.”

15. Boogers

Oh, just when we thought we were done with bodily fluids, allergy season hits or your kid gets a cold.

“Do we have a tissue around? No? We’ll just have to use the inside of your shirt.”

Problem solved!

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16. That Sarcastic Voice in Your Head

Now, moms have to be good examples, so they’re not free to say what they think and feel all the time.

That’s what your secret, in-your-head, Sarcastic Mom Friend is for! Kinda like your child’s Imaginary Friend, except a lot funnier.

  • “Mom, can I watch TV?” I don’t know, did we just finish four episodes of Dora the Explorer and a full-length Disney movie?? I’m not sure how many more of your brain cells I can allow to die off in one day… but it it’s a sustainable amount, sure, you can watch TV! 
  • “Is dinner almost ready?” I don’t know, did you plant the wheat, harvest it, take it to the mill to make flour, mix the ingredients, and bake the bread? HUH, HENNY PENNY??? 
  • “She’s hitting me!” Did you deserve it?? 

17. A Constant Frenzy

Where’s the baby? What’s for dinner? Why are there no clean clothes in the closet? What time was that appointment? Where is your left shoe? Why are your clothes on backwards? Did you just hit your sister? Did you practice your piano? What do you mean the dog ate your homework? When is the last time we fed the dog? Who’s in charge of cleaning the bathroom? Where are you going? When are you coming home? Why do I keep mixing up my kids’ names? Is it bedtime yet?

Why am I going insane??

I love you!

18. Second Guessing Everything

Being a mom means developing a healthy level of trust issues.

After all, you can’t always take a 3 year old’s word… or a 5 year old’s word… or a 7 year old’s word… or a teenager’s word…

“Mom, I’m sick.” Ooooooh, REALLY?????

19. Hiding from the Kids

Where’s the most relaxing place in the world for a mom?

Tucked deep into her closet, behind the dresses where she can’t be spotted, with the door locked, eating her secret stash of chocolate.

Ahhh, I think I’ll go there now.

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20. Getting 80% Done with 40% Battery

Moms don’t mess around! Even when the going gets tough, moms buckle down and get sh!% done!!

Even when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, feeling inadequate, and don’t know what to do, you take care of those cute kids.

Because you’re a mom.

It’s crazy to other people, but to you, it’s just life!

21. An Insane, Unthinkable, Deep, Overarching, Long-suffering, Abiding Love

People without kids don’t get us moms.

They can’t understand why we do what we do, why we put up with everything, why we sacrifice so much.

There’s no way to explain to them how deeply and unconditionally you love those sweeties.

They’ll never quite understand. And you’ll just keep smiling to yourself because there’s just no way to tell them.

It’s crazy to them, but it’s normal to you.

 

I hope this brought you a smile or a chuckle today. You deserve it, mama.

Notice the crazy, unique things about parenthood. They’re the fun and crazy and unique things that keep us on our toes and keep us laughing.

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

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Welcome to When Fit Hits the Shan’s Development Series!!

We’ll cover each major developmental phase of life from age 0-18, diving deep into what affects children during that particular phase, what you as a parent need to be aware of, and how you can help your child develop properly.

Each post (including this one!) covers helpful topics for each developmental stage of life- including:

  • Milestones, New Skills, and Developmental Goals
  • Activities to Boost Development
  • Warning Signs or Potential Dangers
  • Typical Struggles for Mom and What to Do
  • GREAT Things About This Developmental Phase
  • What’s Coming Up Next for Your Child??

Let’s dive into the infant stage!

First of all, congrats Mama!! That’s so exciting that you get to enjoy this amazing miracle of parenthood!

It’s seriously the best. There’s not a thing in the world that can compare. You love these little ones so much, and they just fill your entire universe.

Sometimes I just let my jaw drop and sit in awe for a minute at how wonderful and perfect and sweet and funny and cute and innocent and pure and loving and forgiving and cuddly and honest and wonderful kids are! Especially my own kids. There’s nothing like having your own.

And now you get to enjoy all that too! I’m just bursting with joy FOR you!  

So here it is! Everything a mom needs to know about your infant’s development within the first 6 weeks of life! 

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Milestones, New Skills, and Developmental Goals

First of all, it’s important to note that developmental milestones happen over a range of time.

For example, it’s normal for kids to start talking between 9 and 14 months! That’s quite a range! It gets really stressful if your child is a 14 month old talker. 

You wait and wait… and all the other kids are saying words… And you’re just hanging in there hoping your baby will speak too! And then one day, he does! And it’s such a relief. But you can’t help but feel behind! Now all the other kids know five or six words and your baby only says one! 

Don’t get caught up in comparisons. It’s perfectly ok for kids to take their development at their own pace!

So don’t freak out mama.

Here are a few awesome new skills to watch for in the first 6 weeks of life:

  • Gain about 4 lbs during the first 6 weeks. Keep in mind- babies often loose a couple pounds in the first two or three days after birth, then gain it back slowly over the next weeks.
  • Focus on faces. This is super fun because you can tell your baby is getting to know you! Hold her close because her eyesight isn’t great at first.
  • Coo, sigh, gurgle, and other adorable sounds!! Soak these up! These adorable little noises are unique to newborns and will start to change as your baby gets older. This is great practice for your baby to eventually use those vocal chords to speak and sing!
  • Improve eating. Infants eat on demand- meaning whenever they are hungry, feed them. Your baby should be showing consistent signs of hunger (yay- you’re figuring out this crazy motherhood thing!). She should also be using a proper latch (if not, practice makes perfect! Don’t be afraid to stop feeding and adjust the latch!). You will also notice that she is more efficient at eating- meaning she can feed faster and less frequently.
  • Sleep 16 hours per day. Don’t expect your infant to sleep through the night because he still needs to eat during the night (I know, that sucks! Hang in there mom!). Around 6 weeks of age, you can start understanding better what your baby’s sleep patterns are! Woo hoo for schedules and death to the unpredictability of the first few weeks!!!!
  • Stronger neck and head! It’s tough for an infant to hold their head up, but as your baby gets lots of tummy time you will see improvement during the first 6 weeks! You will still need to be careful to support his head, but he will start trying to lift his head on his own. He should also be able to move his head from side to side.
  • Umbilical Chord. You can expect the baby’s umbilical chord to fall off on its own within the first few weeks. Once it does, your baby is ready for her first real bath- not just those wipe-em-down-with-a-towel wannabe baths!
  • Social and Emotional Skills! I know, so exciting! This is by far my favorite developmental milestone of the first 6 weeks! Your baby learns who you are! He learns your voice and your face! When you start talking or when you approach your baby, he’ll start to wiggle and flap his arms and reach for you! And the SMILES! Every once and a while, a newborn will smile in their sleep as they dream of your breast milk, but at about 6 weeks you see a real I-love-you-mommy SMILE! Yay! There’s nothing like it in the world.

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Activities to Boost Development

One of my favorite things about being a mom is that balance between nature and nurture!

It’s awesome because I get to relax and enjoy my kiddos in whatever stage of life they are in (nature) and yet I also love being an active participant in shaping their character (nurture). 

So cool, huh?? Moms really get the best of both worlds!

We’ve been talking about the nature part so far (development) but let’s throw in a little of the nurture. Here’s what YOU can do to help your child along in learning new skills and mastering his first 6 weeks of life!! 

  •  Snuggle, touch, hold, kiss, diaper, burp, feed, sleep together, etc. Touch is wonderful for newborns! All the typical routines of taking care of a baby (diapering, burping, feeding, sleeping) can involve a lot of parent-child bonding if you hold and snuggle your newborn during those times. It’s stimulating to his senses, he can learn your voice and your face, and it strengthens your relationship.  Look for any chance you can find to soak up your sweet little one- it’s great for them too!
  • Eye contact. Newborns have poor eyesight, so hold them close to your face. It’s good for them to see you up close to learn who you are. This builds trust and familiarity. You can also practice tracking- meaning helping your baby follow an object with his eyes- by moving a brightly colored toy across the baby’s field of vision (this is also great for his neck muscles!!).
  • Talk, sing, read, and more! Let your baby hear your voice! Even though she can’t talk yet, she’ll learn to recognize who you are by your voice and she’ll pick up on specific pieces of language, like tone fluctuations, emotions in your voice, pauses in speaking, and more!
  • Movement games. Babies love to move! Lay your little one on your lap, take a hold of their hands or feet, and practice clapping, running, jumping, playing pretend drums, and more!
  • Bright colors and patterns. These are easier for their little eyes to see and they get their brains working!
  • Tummy time! Tummy time is not a suggestion- it’s an important part of babies’ health. Without tummy time, babies develop a flat head from laying in one position all the time. Laying them on their bellies strengthens babies’ neck and back muscles.
  • Meet their needs quickly! The most important developmental goal of the first 6 weeks is to develop a strong bond between parent and child. This bond is your child’s first emotional attachment and has a deep influence in the rest of her social and emotional development for life. Help your baby learn to trust you by meeting her needs quickly in the first few weeks. As the baby gets older, she is more capable of waiting a minute or two if needed. For now, do your best to respond quickly to your child’s cries.

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Warning Signs or Potential Dangers

Now. Moms. We are always on hyper-alert for anything that might be wrong with our babies because we love them and it freaks us out to know that they might not be genetically perfect.

Keep an eye out for these things, but don’t stress yourself too much! Follow your mommy intuition. Trust your gut.

If you have any questions, just give your doctor a call. It’s always better to be safe and double check! 

Here’s a few of the common warning signs or potential dangers of the first 6 weeks of life.

  • Yellow skin or eyes. Jaundice is when your baby has too much bilirubin in her blood. Basically, her liver is just brand new and needs a little more practice to function properly. The great news is that there’s a super simple solution! All she needs is a little sunlight!  Open a window, lay down a blanket in the sun, and let your baby soak up the light for 10-15 minutes. In extreme cases, newborns may need to be hospitalized for extreme cases of jaundice. If you’re unsure, call the doctor and ask about your specific situation.
  • Sluggishness/Unresponsive. Babies who are lethargic may have medical problems that need a doctor’s attention. Your baby should sleep often, but wiggle, look around, and make noises when she is awake.
  • Refuse to eat. Generally, infants eat on demand- meaning we feed them whenever they need food. Typically, babies at this age are hungry every 4-5 hours. If your baby shows no interest to eat or avoids eating for a long period of time, see your doctor.
  • Vomiting/Diarrhea. Sickness in babies can be serious because of their weak immune systems. If your child is vomiting (more than just a little spit up… which is normal) or has diarrhea visit your doctor.
  • Fever. For a baby under 29 days old, a fever of 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit is a medical emergency. Get your baby to the doctor right away!
  • Umbilical Chord Infection. Keep an eye on the child’s umbilical chord for signs of infection, which include: red skin, puss, and/or a yucky smell. Take your child in to the doctor if you notice any of these symptoms.
  • Sucking Problems. Nursing is tricky for moms and babies. It’s a new skill that you both have to learn. Don’t be too concerned if nursing is difficult, but know that there is a lot of help out there (lactation consultants, online resources, creams and lotions to heal your nipples, etc.). However, there are more serious feeding issues that might require a doctor’s attention, such as:
    • Weak sucking
    • No swallowing during nursing
    • Abnormally long feeding (45 minutes or longer)
    • Excessive spit up or discolored spit up
  • Not gaining weight. Babies typically grow in a steady and upward trend. You don’t want to see a baby’s weight or height plateau. Your baby might not be gaining enough weight if he has very few dirty/wet diapers or if his skin is loose. Don’t be worried about the drop in weight that usually occurs 2-3 days after birth. It’s normal for babies to drop a little weight but then they gain it right back and then some in the following weeks.

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Typical Struggles for Mom and What to Do

The first 6 weeks is no picnic. There are some tough things about this developmental phase.

Here’s a few of the common struggles for mom during the infant phase… and what to do about it!

  • Postpartum Recovery. Let’s not forget- through all of this development that your baby is going through and all this change you’re experiencing, you’re still healing from childbirth! This is a major physical and emotional adjustment. If you are struggling to care for your baby while recovering from labor and delivery, try these tips:
    • Follow the doctor’s directions to the T!
    • Ask other people for help!
    • Communicate clearly to your partner so that they can help you.
    • Make time for self-care, even if it’s just a little extra sleep.
    • Keep it simple. Cook meals out of a box like Hamburger Helper or something. Don’t worry about cleaning. Don’t move unless you have to. The couch and Netflix are your friends.
    • Take advantage of helpful products that can make you more comfortable.

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  • Postpartum Depression or Anxiety. Please know that these are REAL conditions that can affect ANYONE- regardless of your emotional health before the baby comes. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s nothing to hide. If you find yourself battling with postpartum depression or anxiety, try these tips:
    • Tell a doctor right away and follow his recommendations!
    • Tell your family and friends. Be prepared with a list of things they can do to help you- including cleaning your house, meals, taking the baby for a bit while you sleep, watching the older siblings, shopping, or WHATEVER else you think of!! Maybe you just need chocolate! Tell someone and they’ll get it for you!
    • Self-care the crap out of yourself!! Take long showers, nap when the baby naps, snuggle your husband and/or the baby, eat yummy food, get take out!! All that and more!

Need some great ideas for self-care? Read more here: 

27 Universal Truths to Live a Happy Life NOW!

Over 35 Guilty Pleasures for Moms that I’m NOT ABOUT to Stop!

What About Me? Stop Feeling Resentment Towards Your Kids With These Self-Care Tips

Fill Yourself- 6 Vital Tools for Balancing Parent Life and Personal Life


 

  • Knowing what baby needs. How am I supposed to care for an infant who can’t tell me what is wrong?? She just cries! Luckily, science and smart moms before me have it down. Here’s what to look for when your baby is crying:
    • Is he hungry?
    • Is he tired? (Side note- it’s better to help a baby fall asleep before they get fussy so be aware of early signs of sleepiness)
    • Is he hot or cold?
    • Is his diaper wet or dirty? (Or maybe he’s in the process of pooping??)
    • Does he want to be held?
    • Does he have gas? (Try pumping his legs or holding him in a different position to relieve gas pains)
    • Is he uncomfortable? (Try holding him in different positions or laying him down in different positions)
    • Is he overstimulated? (Try giving him some space to see if that calms him down)
    • Is there something hurting him that I didn’t notice? (Try checking him from head to toe to see if there is something wrong. It could be something poking him through his jammies or a hair wrapped around his toe. One mom told me she accidentally clipped the pacifier to her baby’s nipple! Oops!)
  • Colic. Basically, colic is when babies cry for no reason for 3 hours per day or more, for 3 days a week or more. It’s really tough on parents because colicky babies are difficult (nearly impossible!) to soothe. And it can last for a few months! If your baby is colicky, try these methods:
    • Give your baby something to suck on, like a pacifier.
    • Swaddle the baby tightly to resemble the snug feeling of being in the womb.
    • Sway and rock with your baby to calm and relax them.
    • Sing, shush, or use white noise to drown out the new and loud sounds outside the womb. These noises can be overstimulating to a baby, so consistent sound like a vacuum, running water, or shushing can be relaxing to a newborn.
    • Try a change of scenery, like going outside or taking a bath. The warm water or the fresh air might help your child calm down.
    • For more excellent suggestions, check out Coping with Colic from BabyCenter
    • And of course, moms- take care of yourselves if you have a colicky baby!!
  • Nursing struggles. Nursing doesn’t come naturally to a lot of people. If that’s the case for you, try:
    • Using a lactation consultant for help.
    • Practice, practice, practice!
    • Learn as much as you can. Maybe the baby isn’t latching properly and there’s a simple fix!
    • Try pumping and feeding the baby your breast milk in a bottle.
    • Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed if you need to feed your baby formula!
    • Take advantage of the products that are out there to help you.

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  • Sleep deprivation. If you ask moms what the worst part of the infant stage is, you’ll always hear about the lack of sleep! This one is universal. Everyone gets less sleep during the infant phase. Every baby in this phase needs to eat at night, and that means you’ll be up to feed them. So sorry about that one, mama! But it’s a fact of life. If you’re struggling with the sleep deprivation, try these things:
    • Sleep any time you can!
    • Ask friends or family to watch your older kids so that you can nap when the baby naps.
    • Don’t fall into the trap of trying to be productive while baby sleeps! You’ll get there later- but in the first 6 weeks, sleep time for baby is sleep time for mom too.
    • Divide duties with your partner. Pump some milk so that he can feed the baby with a bottle sometimes.
    • Use relaxation methods and calming techniques to help you get a restful sleep.
    • Simplify daily life. If you’re exhausted, you can’t keep up with everything, so just do what really matters and let the rest wait!
  • Feeling stuck indoors. Are you a social butterfly? Or a workaholic? Or a busy bee? Then you’re likely to struggle with the first 6 weeks. This time is about relaxing, laying around on the couch, figuring out this new little person. Not about getting stuff done or going out. In fact, it’s not very safe to take your little one out because his immune system is weak. If you’re feeling stuck, here’s some tips:
    • Ask friends to come visit!
    • Ask a friend, your partner, or a family member to watch the baby while you go out. Make sure you pump some milk so baby can eat!
    • Think up a bunch of fun activities for yourself before you have your baby.
    • Get ready to binge watch your favorite shows!
    • Get yourself treats, comfy pillows and blankets, adult coloring books, regular books, whatever you need to be cozy and happy indoors.
    • Sit outside with your baby for a few minutes to get some fresh air!

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GREAT Things About This Developmental Phase

Now, just because there are some tough things doesn’t mean the newborn phase isn’t incredible… because it really is!

The newborn phase is one of my favorites. Ok, I’ll probably say that about every developmental phase… but it’s true- every single one has so many amazing things!!! 

You’ll never experience anything else like the infant stage. Here’s why:

  • They’re SOOO snuggly! As babies and children grow up, sometimes they don’t want to cuddle you. It’s so sad! Not so with infants. You can hold them close, dress them up, take adorable pictures, and snuggle some more. And they love every second of it!
  • It’s so short. The infant phase is unique because it’s only a few weeks long! That can be a good thing because there are difficult things about this phase… but it’s also the perfect reason to soak it right up!!! Your baby will change so fast, so you need to remember every second!
  • It’s an amazing reason to slow down in life. Life is way too fast paced in modern society. The infant stage defies this extreme rush! None of that- instead, we’re going to rest for a solid 6 weeks. That’s right- take that, assembly lines and race cars.
  • It’s humbling. The infant stage reminds me of what’s important. I refocus on my family each time I have another baby. But that’s not all- I learn that I can’t do everything myself and I learn to accept help from others all over again. I learn to simplify and take it easy. I learn to smell the flowers. I learn to admire the amazing perfection of a new child and I remember my immense responsibility to raise this little human to become a responsible adult. It’s a lot to take in- in a short time. The infant stage is all about the baby’s growth and my own growth.
  • It’s simple. The infant stage isn’t complicated. There’s no discipline because an infant doesn’t break rules. They cry for three or four reasons, give or take. The infant stage is a good beginner lesson to the complex role of parenting.

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What’s Coming Up Next for Your Child??

Your child is graduating from the “infant” stage. Soon, she’ll be a full-fledged chubby, wiggling, giggling, playing baby!

Watch out for our upcoming post: Everything Parents Need to Know- Development from 6 Weeks to 3 Months Old!!

 

Well mama, enjoy your infant, and remember how lucky you are to be a mom! It really is the best job in the world. So rewarding, so fulfilling, and so enriching.

You’ll learn to give your entire self to another person who needs you.

There’s nothing like it! Enjoy motherhood! 

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

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What?? There’s more than one way to burp a baby?

Yeah, I know, who knew? NOT ME!

There’s a lot more to burping babies that you would think.

My first child was not a good burper. She had gas a lot because I couldn’t figure out how to help her burp! Of course, that made her upset and then I struggled to calm a fussy baby. I had only heard of one method (over the shoulder) and it wasn’t working for us.

When I finally got smart and did a little research, I found TONS of useful information about how to burp your baby that solved all my problems.

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Why Do Babies Need to Burp??

  • When babies eat, bubbles of air are ingested that can make them uncomfortable.
  • If those pockets of air stay in the baby’s system, it can cause painful gas.
  • Gas causes babies to be upset. It is difficult to soothe a gassy baby.
  • Dad can help with burping. It’s a great way for him to be involved with the baby.
  • Burping is a great time to connect with your newborn.
  • Touching and patting is stimulating and healthy for the baby.
  • It feels good to meet our baby’s needs! Every new mom needs that boost in confidence!

When Should I Burp My Baby?

Every baby is different, so pay attention to your baby’s cues. This will help you predict when your child needs to burp. Watch for common signs of discomfort like:

  • Arching back
  • Fussiness
  • Pulling away or refusing to nurse

Breastfed babies typically burp when they switch breasts and again at the end of the meal.

Bottle fed babies burp at least once in the middle of the meal and once at the end of the meal. Bottles can cause babies to swallow more air so it may be necessary to burp more often.


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11 Steps to Delivering a Baby Alone- Be Prepared For Those Crazy Times When Sh*# Like That Happens

5 Tips to Reach Optimal Health Before a New Baby (For People Who Don’t Like to Exercise or Diet)

What is a “Good Parent”? Comfort and Advice for First Time Moms

14 Ways to Piss Off A Pregnant Lady


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How Do I Burp My Baby?

Here are those four techniques I promised!

  • Over the Shoulder: You know this one. The parent can choose to sit or stand. Face your baby towards you, rest his chin on your shoulder, support his body with one arm, and lean back to allow the child to rest into you. Then firmly pat or rub the child’s back, moving your hand up and down as you pat to release any air bubbles.

 

  • Variation on Over the Shoulder: This method is very similar to the basic Over the Shoulder Method. The only change is to hold your baby a little higher up on your shoulder so that the child’s belly rests on your shoulder. This causes just a little extra pressure to help release those air bubbles. Only use this method if it is comfortable for your baby (no slouching or odd body position) and if he can breathe easily.

 

  • On Your Lap: Sit down to use this burping method. Sit the child on your lap. Support his head in one hand. Place your fingers along the child’s jaw, not on the child’s neck, nose, or mouth. The baby’s chest can rest on your open palm, creating additional support. Pat the baby’s back.

 

  • Lying on Lap: Sit down for this method as well. Lay the baby across your lap. Place one hand under the baby’s head with his cheek against your palm. Keep the head at the same height or slightly higher than his body. Never let the baby’s head drop lower than his body, as this will cause all the blood to rush to his head. Pat the baby’s back.

 

When choosing which method to use, look for which position your baby seems to prefer, which is most comfortable for you, and which is most effective in helping your child burp.

Some moms choose just one, some moms switch back and forth between different methods.

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Other Helpful Tips:

  • It’s ok if your baby doesn’t burp sometimes. Always try to burp your baby, but don’t stress if it just isn’t working here and there. Sometimes the baby doesn’t need to burp.
  • Expect more burps from bottle fed babies and less burps from breast fed babies.
  • Be ready for spit up! Don’t worry, your child is still getting adequate nutrition. It’s normal to spit up when burping. Just keep a burp cloth handy to clean up with.
  • Make burping a stimulating experience. Sing, sway, talk, kiss, hug your baby. Not only is it great stimulation, but it also helps the baby stay calm during the burping process. It’s harder to burp if you’re tense or upset!
  • Take advantage of these sweet moments with your baby! Soon, he’ll be big enough that he doesn’t need your help to burp, and that’ll be one less one-on-one activity for the two of you. Soak up your cutie!

There you have it! Everything you need to know to burp a baby!!

I hope these tips make your life easier. They did for me!

Happy burping!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

 

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Scary Mom-Nightmares Series- Category: Over 60 Insanely Awesome Child Quotes

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Scary Mom-Nightmares Series- Dirty Talk for Moms

 

Moms, what insane comments have your kids made over the years?? 

I bet you’ve got some embarrassing ones, probably a few scary ones, and lots of funny ones!

WARNING- I know, the topic of this series is Scary Mom Nightmares…. But I did not stick to only SCARY kid quotes. There were just too many that were adorable, sweet, and awesome! So they’re all in here!

Enjoy!

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1) Watch Out!

My son had a bruise on his shin. His dad asked where he got it from.

His response, “A radioactive octopus came out of the drain and got me!”

2) Quick! Get to the Doctor!

A four-year old was sitting in the bathtub when he felt his nuts. He said, “Mom, Call the doctor! There’s a ball in me and it needs to get out!

3) Venus… The Planet…

Have you ever seen the planet Venus in the sky? Every once and a while you can see it with the naked eye.

On the way into a store, I pointed it out to my little one. As we checked out, she told the cashier, “Mommy showed me pee-nus outside!”

4) No Party for Me

It was my toddler’s second birthday. I was so excited for her party!

She was enjoying playing with cousins and friends. I eagerly told her, “Honey, it’s time to start your party now! It’s going to be so fun!”

Without skipping a beat, she yelled back at me int he most growl-y  voice a little pig-tailed girl can muster, “No! PLAY!”

5) Guest Room?

My 8 year old niece was over at my house. My husband had just built me a new bed frame, complete with awesome storage space underneath!

She was excited to see it, so I walked her in to our room to show her.

After she ooo-ed and awww-ed at the bed frame, I showed her the open storage areas underneath. Her eyes lit up and she said, “Oh, that’s so perfect! Like when people come to stay with you, they can sleep down there!”

6) Beauty Pageant

6 year old girl: “My hair is cute, but daddy’s beard hair is SOOOO CUTE!”

7) Sneaky!

A family (6 year old girl, 4 year old boy, and an infant) was riding in the car together. The mom overheard this conversation between her children, as they oogled over the baby:

Girl- “I’m going to marry the baby when I grow up!”

Boy- “Yeah, I’ll marry him too!”

Girl- “You can’t marry him, I’m already going to marry him.”

Boy- “Well then I’ll marry mommy!”

Girl- “You can’t marry mommy either. She’s already married to daddy.”

The boy stops to think for a minute or two, then concludes, “But daddy goes to work!” 

8) This Is the Greatest Show!

Dad carried all three kids into the house to help mom after a long grocery trip.

His first-grade son says, “Daddy, you need to join the circus cause you’re so strong!” 

9) Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me A Match

My son told me that his friend, Lexi, wanted to marry him.

I asked, “Do you want to marry her too?”

He was very giggly and nervous, but he said, “Maybe. I love her.” Then he got serious, and added, “I like her face, but sometimes she looks like a pig.” 

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10) Who… Whaaaaa….

Out of nowhere, my child asked me, “Are Jason and Satan friends?” 

11) You Can’t Argue with That Logic

My little girl (about 7 years old) was watching Duck Dynasty. On the show, they shot a duck to eat.

My little girl said, “Ewwww, gross!”

I quickly told her that she didn’t have to watch it, to which she responded, “But mom, it’s my favorite show!!” 

12) What’s Daddy Doing?

When my husband was in school, “Daddy can’t play, he’s practicing his paper.”

13) Love All Around!

A cute girl expressing her love for her family: “I love mommy, I love daddy, I love my Ennis, and I love my Luke, and…… I love myself!” 

14) Mary Poppins Mindset

Dad (trying to help his daughter get dressed) chose some underwear for her.

Unimpressed with his choice, she said, “Dad, those ones are practically dirty.” Alright, Mary Poppins. 

15) Mom’s In Trouble

I was on the phone and was looking for a quiet place to talk, so I sat on the stairs.

My daughter came around the corner, very concerned, and asked, “Mom, are you in time out?” 

16) Mean Dog

We had just had puppies at our house. The mama dog was licking and caring for the puppies.

My toddler came to me SOOOO angry- just shaking mad- and stuttered out, “Roxy- Not nice!! BITE!” 

17) Stripping

My husband took his shirt off on a hot day.

My son said, “Glad you didn’t take your pants off…” 

18) The Pretty Dream

My daughter is the sweetest ever: “Mom, I need to tell ya something…. I took a pretty pretty dream! It was a flower and it was pink! And I picked it for you, Mom!” 

19) Awww!

“Sometimes, I like to say ‘I love ya mom’ all the time!”

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20) The One From Every Mom Everywhere

Who hasn’t heard this one??

Kid: “Mommy, mommy!!”

Mom: “Yes?”

Kid: “Umm…. I love you.”

It still melts my heart!

21) Creepy Child

Sometimes children are creepy….

“Every day, I come in and I wait for you to wake up.”

Oh, that’s great, son….

22) Clean Up Time

While cleaning their room together, my daughter said kindly to my son, “I found your monkey for you!”

Then, holding her arms out wide, “Now come give me a hug and smile at me!” 

23) Speedy Daddy

“Dad ran fast as 100 dollars!”

I wish I could run that fast…. Then I wouldn’t be so poor.

24) Descriptive and Accurate

While walking through a store, my child saw a cute rustic soap dish.

She asked me, “Oooooh, what’s this?”

Me: “It’s just a kind of decoration.”

Her: “Oh, it’s so beautiful, it looks like singing!” 

25) New Skills

Kid: “I got my clothes on all by myself!”

Me: “Good job pumpkin.”

Kid: “Now I look like a p….. (long pause for effect)…. A person!” She walked away with a satisfied smile. 

26) The Phone Mishap

I dropped my BRAND NEW phone right in the toilet. (You all know how that feels!)

Soon, we had to leave to pick up my husband from work. I was less than excited to have to tell him about the phone.

My son said, “I want to say a prayer for you mom.” Awww!!

Here’s what he prayed for, “Please bless mom’s phone, and please bless daddy. He’s going to be pissed.”

(Circumstantially, I had just asked my husband not to say pissed in front of the kids that same day!)

27) Did You Sleep Good?

When my kids wake up, my first question is always, “Did you sleep good?”

Lately, my little boy has been beating me to it with, “Mom, I weep good!” 

28) Oh My….

Out of surprise, my little said, “Oh my cow!”

I’m guessing this is a mush of “oh my goodness” and “holy cow?”

29) Distaste!

Instead of saying, “I don’t like (whatever)” my son grimaces dramatically, sighs, and declares, “I CAN’T wike it!” 

Like he’s trying so hard.

30) MOST ADORABLE KID IN THE WORLD AWARD!

Ok, my son definitely wins.

Check him out- I was folding laundry one day and told him that I was feeling really tired. He let out an “awwww!”, gave me a big hug, and said firmly, “I take you yours bed.”

I protested- telling him that I still had to fold the clothes. He would not be swayed- “I do it myself.”

Then he took me by my hand and guided me to my room. I laid down in bed and he covered me with a blanket. Later he brought in a cookie sheet with a couple chocolate chips on it. “I bring you yours lunch.”

I asked if he could help his little sister, who was fussing. He put her in her bed with a sippy cup and calmed her right down.

That cutie melts my heart! He was only 5 years old! 

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31) Mushman!

When my son was young, he said to his dad, “Your face, mushman!”

We couldn’t figure out what he meant for a while… but we finally connected the dots.

He remembered having a mustache drawn on his face for Halloween and he wanted his daddy to have one too!

32) Puppy??

My daughter calls all animals puppy.

Lately, that word also applies to her Uncle Stephen because of his beard! 

33) Burp… Or Not?

My son started giggling out of nowhere.

He leaned over to his dad and whispered, “I burped in my pants.” 

34) What’s that Green Holiday?

A little confusion about St. Patrick’s Day, “Today is Pinch Patch Day… I mean Thanks Pinch Day…?” 

35) Sincere Prayer of a 4 Year Old

Another adorable prayer, “Thankful for…. Some stuff. And we’re glad… about something.”

36) Hint: Tiny Presents Don’t Taste Good

My son thought a beef bouillon cube was chocolate so he popped it in his mouth and ate it… This is what he told me, “Yuck! There was a tiny present I ate and it was so gross!!!” 

37) Mature Response to Adversity

I forgot to buy milk at the store.

My understanding child let out a weary sigh, like he had dealt with so much today, and said, “It’s for the best.” 

38) Nice Cover Up

As I was helping my child prepare a presentation, I asked her what she wanted to say.

She took a deep breath, and blurted out in a loud voice, “Hello boys and girls, I’m not very frightened today.” 

39) Who Am I?

I worked with children in their homes helping them overcome behavioral problems.

One day, I was asked to fill in for a staff who was sick. I went to the home and greeted the child warmly.

He gave me a disgusted look and said, “No matter how much makeup you put on, I can still recognize you- Candice!”

I am not Candice….

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40) Get To Know You

During a get to know you game, my child was asked, “Where’s the coziest place in your home?”

Her answer was, “In my bed and on daddy!” 

41) The Food Pet

We were eating Roman for dinner.

At one point, my son held up a fork full of noodles and asked his sister, “Do you want to pet it??”

Of course, she did pet his noodles. Great.

After the giggling ended, he ate the noodles. His sister quickly objected, “Hey! You just ate your pet!” 

42) Great Focus!

Dad: “In Japan, they eat a lot more rice and fish.”

Daughter: “Ahhhh. I love chicken wings.”

43) What Words Start with A???

We were playing an animal ABC game. You are supposed to name an animal that starts with each letter of the alphabet.

My daughter got us started right with “Ass” for letter A.

I mean… she’s not wrong…

44) Safety First

My son had just watched Jurassic Park for the first time. We were asking him if he got scared.

My daughter, who hadn’t seen it yet, piped in with, “I think I want to wear my life jacket when I try it.” ]

Sure sweetie… That’ll help.

45) Keep it School Appropriate

“Why do they talk about being animals in that song (Would You Like to Swing on A Star) because animals are naked and nobody thinks about that and it would be inappropriate to told kids at school.”

Wow, how do you argue with those points?

46) Why I Should Stay Fat

My son was thinking over a commercial he saw for some weight loss product.

He said, “I think people should keep their weight. You know why? Because then, no one could get them because they couldn’t carry them.”

Good point. I think I’ll have a slice of cake.

47) Confession

The dinner table was quiet until, “IT WAS ME… TOOTING!”

Thank you for your confession…?

48) Like… What?

“I’m growing bigger, just like a flower flake!”

49) Gross!

I accidentally sneezed on my son.

He got upset and said, “Don’t bless me mom!” 

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50) Hairy Stuff

Backstory- my husband is bald and I have long flow-y hair.

I went through a phase after giving birth to my last child where I lost a lot of hair… and my poor family kept finding strands of hair in their food! Ahhh!

During one unfortunate night, my poor husband had this happen to him. My kids watched with wide eyes as he choked and sputtered.

Then my son volunteered, “Maybe dad should do the cooking?” 

51) Simple Solution

Kid: “We need to save these cupcakes for Halloween!”

Me: “Halloween is too far away.”

Kid: “We can drive to it!”

52) Fantasies of a Four Year Old

My daughter got a princess sticker from the doctor.

My youngest son looked at the princess and said, “I love her! I kissed her in my dreams!”

53) Oopsies…

My son told his grandma: “My penis was stuck in my diaper like this (points finger straight up) and it hurt!”

Grandma: “Does it hurt now?”

The kid: “No, I saved it.” 

54) I Don’t Understand.

“Hey mom, if my tummy was a spoon, I would scoop up my teacher in the pool and all my friends.”

55) Natural Kindness from Nowhere

“I care about ducks.”

Oh. Good?

56) Congratulations!

When my son opened the car door all by himself, he got very excited and yelled, “Good job me!” 

57) Adult-Sized Worries

My son was playing on the playground. I followed him around, while talking to my husband on the phone.

Randomly, he got very serious, looked off into the distance, and solemnly said, “You are just so far away, and I know you’re riding on a roller coaster.” 

58) Don’t Ask

Grandpa: “How was school?”

My son: “It’s private.” 

59) High Standards

“I want to marry someone like mom. She’s not THAT beautiful, but she is very very very cute.” 

Ummm… Thank you?? I guess?

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60) Pretend… Or Real??… Stories

“One time, I was choking on a bubble and then I got it out of my throat. And I put it in my jacket and I took it out and put it in a night light in my room. (Chuckles hysterically) Remember how funny that was, mom?”

A little while later and after a few more awesome stories, he blurts out, “I just made those up! Hahahahahah!”

Then, he suddenly stops mid laugh and says in a deep, serious voice, “Nope. They’re real.” 

62) Getting Crafty

My daughter liked to sit by the same girl every day at school.

But then one day, the girl decided to sit by someone else.

My daughter was very sad about it, but I tried to calm her down. I told her, “Don’t worry honey, there are lots of nice kids in your class. You might find more girls that you like to sit by. Maybe it’s time to make some new friends.”

She looked up at my through tear filled eyes, looking very confused. “Out of what??” she asked. 

63) Hard Work… No Thanks!

I was babysitting a few of my nieces and nephews for a weekend.

Our house is heated entirely by wood stove, so one of our constant chores is bringing in wood for the stove.

I put on a big smile and excitedly told the kids that they get to help me! I tried to make it sound so excited and fun! The older two (9 and 7) fell for it right away- running outside to get some firewood.

The youngest saw through me right away. After my best efforts to be fun and exciting, he looked right at me and said calmly, “I won’t be doing that.” 

64) Pregnant??

My nephew looked me up and down.

He informed me, “You know how I know you’re going to have a baby soon? Your tummy is big, like this (he used his hand to show a big bump on my belly.”

I was a little annoyed until I took a pregnancy test…

He called it.

65) Deer Crossing

Have you seen those deer crossing signs on the highways? You know, the kind that warn drivers that there might be deer in the area?

One ten year old girl asked her family, “How do the deer know to follow the sign to cross the road right here?”

The family thought it was pretty funny, so they teased her for a while about it.

Until her older sister (thirteen) finally joined in, “I always wondered that too.”  

66) Who’s Wearing What?

I was in a hurry to get my kids ready and running late.

I tried to get my oldest daughter to help the toddler get undressed so that he was ready for me to dress as soon as I finished dressing the four year old.

I told her, “Take off Charlie’s shirt.”

She stood still and looked at me with a weird look.

Noticing her hesitation, I repeated the instruction, “Leslie, take off Charlie’s shirt!”

I was getting a little frustrated since we were late.

Finally, she started crying and said, “I haven’t got it on!” 

67) Awesome Mispronunciations:

  • Roman Noodles= Robin Nerdles
  • Scrambled Eggs= Grumbled Eggs
  • Vitamin C= Bite-a-min Seed
  • Each other’s= Your chuthers “
  • Apricot Jam= Apple crisp jam
  • Mashed potatoes= Smashed potatoes
  • Making Sure= Make Suring
  • Sandwich= Chommers
  • Doctor Raj= Doctor Garage
  • Popsicles= Applepus or Apple-coops

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I’m still laughing!!

Oh man.

What stories do you have to add to this list?? I know your kids have said some cute/awesome/hilarious/inappropriate things too! Share them in the comments below!

And as always, a special THANK YOU to all the moms who shared these awesome stories with us!

We moms needed a good laugh to keep us going. Keep an eye out for the next chuckles coming up in our Scary Mom-Nightmares Series!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

 

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