Everything Parents Need to Know Development from 6 Weeks to 6 Months

Everything Parents Need to Know- Development from 6 Weeks to 6 Months Old

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Welcome to When Fit Hits the Shan’s Development Series!!

We’ll cover each major developmental phase of life from age 0-18, diving deep into what affects children during that particular phase, what you as a parent need to be aware of, and how you can help your child develop properly.

Each post (including this one!) covers helpful topics for each developmental stage of life- including:

  • Milestones, New Skills, and Developmental Goals
  • Activities to Boost Development
  • Warning Signs or Potential Dangers
  • Typical Struggles for Mom and What to Do
  • GREAT Things About This Developmental Phase
  • What’s Coming Up Next for Your Child??

Let’s dive into what it takes to care for a baby from 6 weeks to 6 months old!! 

baby eating pacifier

Milestones, New Skills, and Developmental Goals

As always, don’t worry if your kid and the neighbor’s kid are slightly different in their milestones.

All kids reach various developmental goals in their own time and in their own way. No need to compare, because your sweet little one is his own perfect person!

Here’s a few milestones to watch out for between 6 weeks and 6 months of age:

  • Rolling Over. This is a super exciting moment because it’s baby’s first gross motor (whole body) movement! Soon, your cutie pie will be crawling, then walking, then running… but for now he’s mastering the art of rolling!
  • Sitting (with Help). Your little one is learning how to control his body more and more- although it’s still a work in progress. He can sit up but is still prone to fall over. Give your little one extra help as needed- such as when mom holds his arms to help him balance or when he has pillows propping him up.
  • Lift Head and Chest. Yes, this is the first sign that crawling is on its way! You’ve been practicing tummy time since your baby was born and now it’s paying off! She’s getting stronger and can lift her head and chest up off the ground for a few seconds! Some babies might even master crawling by 6 months old, but it’s normal for babies to crawl anytime between 6-10 months.
  • Beginning Solid Foods. It is recommended to begin solid foods at 6 months of age. However, some babies might show signs of being ready to eat solids sooner. Here are signs to watch out for:
    • Baby can sit up all on his own- without support.
    • The tongue-thrust reflex should be gone! When babies are born, their tongue automatically pushes solids out of his mouth. This reflex disappears around 6 months of age. If the reflex is gone, your baby might be ready to begin solids.
    • Baby shows interest in food by watching and reaching for food.
    • Baby is developing a “pincer grasp” which means he can pick up small objects using his thumb and pointer finger. This skill is important to learning to self-feed.
  • Teething. Teething is tough for moms and babies, but an essential part of development. Most babies get their first teeth around 6 months old, but some babies get their teeth much earlier or much later. My first baby didn’t get her first tooth until 11 months!!
  • Eye Contact and Smiles. This age is awesome because your baby shows genuine interest by laughing at, interacting with, and smiling for you and others. These interactions are a big deal because they form the beginning of relationships, social skills, and self-esteem. You’ll get to enjoy your baby laughing, smiling, jabbering, and showing excitement to see you by kicking his feet and flapping his arms when he sees you!
  • Conversations. Ok, so you don’t really have conversations with a baby. But, the interactions you do have with your baby are forming his earliest understanding of conversations. For example, he’s learning that people take turns talking, that people fluctuate their voices as they speak, that there are lots of different tones to use, lots of different sounds incorporated in our language, that common phrases or words are repeated, and, best of all, that making noise gets people’s attention! He’s learning that “speaking” (or his best attempts at speaking) is a useful tool and that will be motivating to keep learning all about language!
  • Attempt to Grab Objects. Yay, fine motor skills are developing! That means your baby is learning how to use his hands and fingers! She’s very rusty at it at first. She might try to swipe at an object and miss completely, but she’ll get better and better until she can reach for, pick up, and play with the object that she wanted!

Activities to Boost Development

Alrightie moms, you know what to expect from “nature”- that’s those developmental milestones that you’re watching for.

Let’s chat about “nurture”- the part where you get to actively participate in shaping your child!

Here are some things you can do now to help your baby reach his developmental goals:

  • Tummy Time. Tummy time is vital until a baby is strong enough to crawl. Indeed, tummy time directly correlates with a baby’s development of the muscles and coordination needed to crawl. This important skill can be delayed if a baby doesn’t get the chance to practice via tummy time.
  • Attention. Have you heard that old saying, “You can’t spoil a baby?” Well it’s true! Don’t worry about teaching your baby to delay gratification. Right now, your baby cries for legitimate reasons (hungry, thirsty, tired, over stimulated, uncomfortable, hot, cold, etc.) so don’t hesitate to meet their needs quickly! This teaches the baby that you are a reliable caregiver, which fosters trust.
  • Holding, Snuggling, Touching, Blow Raspberries. The biggest success a parent can have during the baby phase is to show your baby with absolute confidence that you will always be there for them. This bond will last a lifetime and it begins here. Making time to play and interact with your baby strengthens  the attachment they have with you. Plus, it’s a lot of fun!
  • Change Positions Often. Switching things up keeps babies interested and engaged with their environment, encourages them to turn their head in all directions, and helps them develop different muscles than if they were always in one position.  You can switch which side of crib baby’s head is on and lay/hold your baby in different positions (right side, left side, tummy, back… now let’s try propping you up to practice sitting, and then I’ll stand you up on my lap, and then you’ll lay back down… etc).
    • Make sure you include sitting and standing in the rotation of positions (although your child will need you to support them in these positions) as this will teach the skills needed to eventually master sitting and standing!
  • Talk, Read, Sing, and Label Familiar Objects. Babies love to hear language. They might not understand quite yet, but soon they will recognize familiar words and begin to respond to what you say- and it’s all because you talk to your baby now!
  • Repeat After Your Baby. I know, this might look a little weird if someone walked in the room at the wrong time. But it really is good for your baby! Your baby is more likely to imitate YOUR language if you imitate HIS language. You’re teaching him what he needs to do to learn how to speak. Plus, babies LOVE it! They notice that you are showing interest in them, at their level. They love having some control in the interaction. You can give your child the feeling of being special and valued, even as a baby.
  • Toys. Not all toys are good for babies. It’s important to know what to look for. Try toys that stimulate one or more of the senses. For example, bright colors and pictures stimulate the eyes. Textures and toys that move stimulate the sense of touch. Toys that make noise stimulate hearing. It’s also a great idea to choose toys that are easy to pick up. This will help the baby develop those fine motor (hand and finger movement) skills.

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Warning Signs or Potential Dangers

Just a few things to be aware of, but remember that most babies are healthy and strong! This is all informational and just in case!

Don’t stress too much about the possible things that might go wrong in parenthood or you’ll miss the great things that are happening now!

If you have any questions, just give your doctor a call. It’s always better to be safe and double check! 

Here are some common problems between age 6 weeks to 6 months:

  • SIDS. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is a scary but PREVENTABLE risk during the baby stage. Follow the guidelines of the Safe Sleep Academy to decrease the risk of SIDS.
    • Some parents prefer to use monitors that track the baby’s movement to decrease the risk of SIDS. Check out some products like these by following the links below.

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  • Over Stimulation. Many parents are unaware that their attempts to entertain and engage with their babies can be too much. If a baby has too much going on, he feels overstimulated. He may cry, turn away, refuse to make eye contact. The solution is simple- he just needs a little quiet time and then he will be ready to interact again.
  • Choking. Babies explore the world around themselves by putting objects into their mouth. Keep small toys or objects away from the baby. As the baby gets more mobile (rolling, crawling, walking) the parent should be more aware of choke-able objects. Not sure what toys are too small?? Use a choke tester!

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  • Falling. The ability to get around via rolling or crawling adds the potential to fall. I remember setting my 4 month old daughter on a chair just for a second while I put my coat on. I thought there was no possible way for her to move. She couldn’t even roll yet. But she could kick her legs, and that was enough to propel her body off the chair. She was fine, but falls can be very dangerous especially if the child hits her head.
  • No Eye Contact. Children with Autism show very few signs in the early years, but if a parent is aware they may identify Autism early on. If a child is not making eye contact by 6 months, it is possible that the child could have Autism or other developmental delays.
  • Unresponsive, “Floppy”, Not Interested in her Surroundings. Babies at this stage are energetic, interested, and engaged. They are strengthening their muscles every day through movements. If your baby is very still, uninterested, and unresponsive, their may be a need for medical intervention. See your doctor.
  • Not Gaining Weight. Babies double their birth weight during the first 5 months of life! If your baby isn’t gaining weight, there might be a medical condition that needs to be addressed. See a doctor and/or a lactation consultant for help with feeding.
  • Not Responding to Loud Sounds or Not Making Sounds Herself. It can be difficult to identify if a baby has hearing problems, but one warning sign is if the child does not respond to loud sounds. This lack of response could be due to deafness or partial deafness. Similarly, children with hearing problems don’t hear the sounds that other people make so they don’t begin to imitate those sounds themselves. If your child does not try to make noise, she might have a hearing problem. See a doctor to confirm.

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Typical Struggles for Mom and What to Do

As with every phase, 6 weeks to 6 months has its own unique challenges. But they aren’t as bad when you’re prepared for them!

Here’s what you might find yourself struggling with in this phase:

  • Postpartum Depression or Anxiety. Postpartum depression and anxiety are very real conditions that affect a lot of women. Get help quickly by telling your doctor if you think you might be experiencing symptoms of postpartum depression or anxiety.
    • Medication,
    • natural remedies,
    • self-care,
    • asking for help from family and friends,
    • and finding things that bring you joy can help ease the symptoms of these disorders. ALWAYS tell a doctor- don’t try to ease postpartum depression on your own as this can be dangerous for you and your baby. 
  • Hormones and Other Postpartum Surprises. Most people expect their bodies to be very different for the first 6 weeks postpartum. It can be a shock when it’s been a few (or a lot) of months (or years) since you had your baby and you’re still dealing with changes in your hormones or your body.
    • Learn about your new body through helpful books and educational materials.
    • Accept that some changes are permanent and that’s ok- Your baby is worth it!
    • Find out what things you can change and set realistic goals to make those changes.
    • Love yourself!
    • Take each day one step at a time.
    • Be aware of your own needs and limitations so that you don’t do too much too soon.
    • Ask and accept help from others.

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  • Back to Life. After the first 6 weeks, you’ve got to start transitioning back to reality. For moms who work, maternity leave ends and you’ve got to figure out a whole new routine. For all moms, you run out of freezer meals and it’s time to start cooking again. Your fridge empties, and it’s time to get to the grocery store. Your house gets dirty, and you’re the one who’s got to clean it. And you’re doing all this with one extra tiny person to juggle. There’s a lot to learn and a lot to figure out!
    • Take things one step at a time. Clean the bathroom today, go shopping tomorrow.
    • Don’t expect too much of yourself too soon.
    • Ask for help as needed!
    • Get your partner and older kids involved in the housework and errands. Split up the chores.
    • Do chores and errands on a rotation- not all at once.
    • Find a way to reward yourself for a job well done to keep yourself from getting burnt out.
    • Wear your baby! It’s way easier to get things done.

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  • Nursing Struggles. If you or your baby struggle to nurse, it’s possible that these issues could be a long-term problem for you. There isn’t one solution as every person’s needs are different. Here are a few of the potential solutions for you to consider:
    • See a lactation consultant to identify if you and your baby’s nursing technique is correct.
    • See a doctor to make sure the baby’s nutrition and growth is adequate.
    • Consider pumping and feeding the baby your breast milk out of a bottle.
    • Don’t be upset or ashamed to feed your baby formula! If it’s what is best for you and your baby, then who cares what other people think??
    • Take advantage of all the great breast feeding products out there to make yourself more comfortable!

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  • Sleep Deprivation. As you deal with all this transition back to real life after having a baby, you have to do it all on half the sleep you used to get! It’s no fun. There’s no easy way to handle it. It just sucks to not sleep! But your baby will sleep more and more and you’ll have fewer feedings up until the child finally transitions to sleeping through the night. It gets better, mama!
    • Give yourself a good cry now and again. This part just sucks.
    • Research sleeping tricks and tips. With my first baby, I got her out of bed to eat every time she made the slightest noise in her bed. I found out later that she didn’t need to eat every time and I was actually waking her (and myself) up way more than was necessary!
    • Sleep during the day every chance you get. Naps aren’t time to clean the house or get stuff done! It’s time for you to rest!
  • Teething. Ahhh, teething. Another fact of life that just sucks… for mom and baby. Teething is painful and uncomfortable for babies. There are some tricks that moms can use to help out a poor teething baby. Check out these great products to make teething a little easier for you and your baby!

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GREAT Things About This Developmental Phase

That’s right, just because there are some tough things doesn’t mean that age 6 weeks to 6 months isn’t AMAZING!

I LOVE this phase! You’re past the infant stage and moving into the baby phase. Here are some wonderful things about this age:

  • Baby is Responsive! The absolute, hands down, most amazing part of the baby stage is how much FUN you get to have with your baby! They’re cute, they’re friendly, they’re playful, and they love everything you do. It’s the best! You’ve got your own little BFF to hang out with all the time! They’re never mad at you, they’re so loving and sweet. It’s just fun to be around a baby!
  • Baby is Not TOO Mobile. Every experienced mom will tell you that life gets a little harder once baby starts to crawl and walk. That means you’re in the perfect phase of limited mobility! Baby is able to sit up if propped up with pillows and she can play by herself for short periods of time… but she’s also not so independent that she’s getting into your cupboards and drawers! What a great place to be!
  • No Discipline Yet! Oh yeah. I soak up the baby phase because the parenting part of it all is very simple. No worrying about teen pregnancy or instilling proper morals into your kids. It’s just basic! Keep the kid alive! I don’t care who you are, that kind of no pressure parenting is nice!!
  • Nursing Problems May End Soon. 6 months is a major milestone for nursing moms! If you can nurse for the first 6 months of life, you’ve given your baby a great head start!! If you’re having a tough time with nursing, 6 months might be a good time to quit. Other moms continue nursing for a year, and other moms nurse for many years. Do whatever is best for your family!
  • No Stranger Awareness Yet. Another GREAT thing about young babies is that they don’t experience fear of strangers until they are older. That means you are free to drop them off with grandma for an evening while you go get dinner and there’s no separation anxiety. You can let your friends hold your baby at church, you can get a babysitter, it’s all good! That’s something to take advantage of!

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What’s Coming Up Next for Your Child??

Your baby is growing and growing! You won’t believe how big she’ll get in the next couple months!

Soak up your little one because she won’t be little for long!

Everything Parents Need to Know- Development from 6 months to 12 months!!

 

Well. There you have it.

All the wonderful things, struggles, and adventures of being a mom of a baby from 6 weeks to 6 months old. 

Need more resources? Check out Child Development 3-6 Months or Baby Development!

It’s a great time of life, for you and for the little one!

Enjoy it mama!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

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The Best or Worst Potty Stories Told By Moms

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That’s right!! Scary Mom-Nightmares: Potty Edition is finally here!

We can’t even begin to talk about the crazy things that happen to us as parents without hitting on pee and poop!!! 

Pee and poop is the essence of insane parenting moments!

That’s why we all LOVE potty training so much. HAHAHAHAHA (slow insane laugh….)

So what awesome potty stories do you have??

Check out this list of over 20 great potty stories that will have you rolling on the floor laughing out loud-

AND don’t forget to share your own potty stories in the comments below!!!

Here they are! 21 of the best (or worst??) potty stories told by moms!

1. Peeing Outside

My family took a trip to the zoo.

It was so great, until I turned around and my son was peeing into the plants outside the exhibits right off the main walkway, where he was getting lots of attention from other visitors!

All I could think to choke out in response was, “We’ve talked about this!”

Somehow, I don’t think that made me sound any more normal to the other visitors.

2. Doggy Style

We were visiting a friend’s house for a play date. I was inside chatting with the other moms and all the kids were out playing in the yard.

One of the moms sheepishly touched my shoulder and pointed to the back yard. That’s never a good sign!

I looked through the window to see my 7 year old in a squatting position, pooping right in our friend’s yard!

]After cleaning up the mess, I pulled her aside and asked why she did that. She explained, “Toby (our dog) does it!”

3. Cheer Leader

Nothing beats pooping in a public restroom (as if that’s not bad enough already) with a newly potty trained 3 year old cheering me on, loud enough for the whole store to hear!

“Mommy- YOU POOPED!!”

“Wow, mommy, great job peeing in the potty!”

I couldn’t be mad… All I could say was, “Thank you sweetie.”

4. Ice Cream!

I was cooking dinner. My toddler had taken off her diaper without me knowing.

One of my older kids interrupted my cooking with, “Look mom, an ice cream cone!” pointing at the bench by the kitchen table.

I was so confused, so I came to see. There on the bench lay a nice large turd, in the perfect shape (and I kid you not, the exact color scheme!!) of an ice cream cone.

5. Tired of the Wait

We were on a road trip and stopped to use the bathroom at a gas station. It was one of those single-stall, men/women restrooms.

I let my little one go first, and asked him to wait inside the bathroom while I went. I was still going when he got tired of waiting for me and burst open the door.

Just in time for me to make eye contact with the (rather attractive!) man outside who was waiting to use the restroom. And we just maintained eye contact for like 10 seconds as the door to the restroom slowly, slowly swung shut again.

Ahhh!

6. Responsible Neighbors

One summer, our family was playing outside. Our son was in the process of potty training. He was playing in a kiddie pool, wearing only shorts with no underwear.

Well, I guess he needed to poop but he didn’t say anything.

Instead, he let that turd fall right out the leg of his shorts onto the sidewalk… where it sat undisturbed and unnoticed… UNTIL…

Our neighbors walked by, asked if we got a dog, and told us we needed to be responsible and clean up after it!

7. Snack Time

My daughter was just walking. She had a bad diaper rash, so I was letting her hang out naked for a bit to air out.

After a few minutes, I looked over and noticed her crouched down behind the arm of the couch. When I went to see what was going on, she had pooped on the floor.

And she was eating it!!! AHHHHH!

We were new parents, so my husband and I totally freaked out.

After a few minutes of running around and yelling confused directions at each other, trying to figure out what to do, we finally washed her mouth at least 10 times, and it just seemed like we could still smell it on her breath! Eww!

8. When you Teach your Child TOO WELL

Another public restroom mishap… I took my little one into the stall with me. I went potty first, then tried to help him up onto the toilet.

He yelled, “Ewww, Mom! Don’t touch me with your poop hands!”

I could hear laughter echoing… coming from all the other stalls.

9. Getting Technical

We were out playing at a neighbor’s house.

Because parenting is what it is, I reminded him beforehand NOT to poop in the yard.

So… naturally…. when my son had to go, he climbed the tree, squatted, and pooped on a branch. Amazing.

And technically- as he reminds me still to this day- he DID follow my directions.

10. Time for New Flooring!

My child pooped on the carpet.

Ok, no big deal for a parent. We deal with this every day.

But he wasn’t done yet!

Then got down on his hands and knees. And rubbed his poop into a giant patch of brown as far as his arms could reach.

By the time I found him, just a few seconds later, it was smeared deep into the fibers of the carpet… not to mention all over on his hands, in his hair, and on his face too.

Great!

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11. Double the Trouble

My kids are “Irish twins”- you know, two pregnancies and two kids born in the same year of each other?

Well, because of their close age, they were both newly potty trained at the same time.

We decided to take a trip to the zoo. I was so excited to show them the monkeys and the elephant for the first time! They were at the perfect age to soak it up. I could just see their faces filled with amazement and excitement!!!

Right outside the zoo, they BOTH peed their pants. At. The. Exact. Same. Time.

We turned around and got right back in the car.

12. Gravity Sucks

My husband and I were enjoying a walk down the board walk along the beach during our lovely family vacation.

We had a couple kids walking alongside us and one sitting up on my husband’s shoulders.

My husband randomly said, “Honey. Come here please.” There was something about his tone… You know, the tone that parents use to communicate to each other in a second that all is very very wrong.

Turns out, my poor kid wasn’t feeling so well… And the poop couldn’t be contained in his pants… And my poor husband now had diarrhea all down his back!

13. Whaaaaaa……

I remember being out with another couple. They brought their little baby (the third child) along because she was too young to be left with a babysitter.

Well, the baby had a blowout. Totally normal, right?

This mom was freaking out and had absolutely no idea what to do because none of her other babies had ever had a blowout! And this was her third child!

I couldn’t believe it, and I couldn’t help but sit back with my arms folded across my chest and chuckle as she tried to figure out what to do with poop dripping down the baby’s back, neck, arms, legs, and clothes.

She was so surprised when the poop got on HER clothes and hands.

Ok, of course, I stepped in and offered her a spare set of clothes (I keep those in my car AT ALL TIMES because my kids are normal and have blowouts like every other day!).

I just can’t get over the fact that she had never seen a blowout in THREE KIDS! THREE!

14. Tell Me It’s Chocolate…

My niece had this thing about putting her hands down her diaper. It seemed like we were always reminding her to take her hands out there.

As if that isn’t bad enough… she was a thumb sucker.

Can you see where this is going?

One day, I found her with chocolate all over her face. I couldn’t figure out where she got it from. All of our chocolate was kept in tall cupboards.

Oh wait.

If only it were chocolate! But it wasn’t.

15. She’s Got All the Solutions

When my son was a baby, he had a stinky diaper. I left to get the supplies I needed to change him.

During the 5 seconds I was gone, my sweet helpful daughter got sick of the poop smell. With logic that only a 5 year old can understand, she sprayed him with Febreze head to toe!

She didn’t get it in his eyes or face (thankfully!!!), but she did soak his hair with it.

Problem solved!

16. Don’t You Love It When Kids Think Of Their Own Jokes?

The kid: “Knock knock.”

Me: “Who’s there?”

The Kid: “Poopy Pee.”

Me… getting reluctant to participate: “Poopy Pee who?”

The Kid: Squats down in a crouching position and grunts. Wow.

17. What’s Going On In There??

From inside a public bathroom, my child yells to me, “Mom, there’s Santa! Come get Santa!”

Who…

What?

How?

I don’t know what to do with that.

18. Effective Communication

I don’t know where this came from, but my little girl (age 2ish) used to tell me when her diaper was poopy by saying, “Poopygins!”

I swear I didn’t teach her that.

19. Nice Comeback

While potty training my daughter, we had yet another accident.

No big deal, I’m used to that.

But I wasn’t prepared for my daughter’s rebuttal, “I’m so sorry mom! You don’t understand what I did wrong.”

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20. Righteous Anger

My youngest confessed to my oldest child that he had peed on his boot.

The sweet older brother wasn’t even mad.

He was innocently replying that it was ok when the youngest cut him off, yelling, “You go to school and I WORK all the time!”

Somebody’s got a guilty conscience.

21. Sleep Walking Peeing?

Is sleep peeing a thing? I think it is… and here’s my proof.

I love raising boys, but the peeing thing can get really out of hand. I’ve had several instances when I wake up in the middle of the night to some noise. When I drag myself out of bed to check it out, I find one of my boys, apparently asleep, peeing on random objects in the house.

  • My bedpost
  • The sugar jar (Yes- the one up on the counter… he climbed a chair and peed in it while sleeping!)
  • The empty space next to the toilet (at least he was close this time)
  • Various pieces of furniture (tables, chairs, couches….)

 

There you have it! All the best mom experiences with pee and poop!

But I bet there are more out there that we haven’t heard yet… am I right?

What awesome potty stories do you have?? Share them in the comments below!

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

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Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

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Must Have Pieces of Quality Family Time to Keep Your Family Together Forever

7 Must-Have Pieces of Quality Family Time to Keep Your Family Together Forever!

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TRIVIA: On average, how much quality time do American families spend together per day???

(Scroll to the bottom of the post for the answer!)

 

Families in our world today face many challenges- but none so great as the lack of time together. 

  • Moms and dads work,
  • kids are involved in after-school activities or sports or clubs,
  • the house has to be maintained,
  • someone’s got to make dinner,
  • the laundry needs washed,
  • the dishes need cleaned.

There are so many things competing for our attention that it’s easy to get distracted and forget those people who are most important to us- our kids, our spouse, our parents, our siblings, our cousins, our grandparents…

If you fall into that category, don’t fear! You can keep your family together by making whatever time you do have with your family QUALITY time. Even if it’s just an hour each evening after work.

It’s just like a puzzle- if you have all the pieces, everything fits together naturally. BUT- If you’re missing one of the vital elements, you’re not achieving your end goal of having successful quality family time.

Here’s the recipe: four vital attitudes and three vital activities to incorporate into your family time to achieve QUALITY family time. 

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Attitude 1: Respect

Now, don’t stress if you’ve got teenagers at home. Sometimes it seems like you’ll never have respect in your family time with teens around.

Remember that the only person you have control over is you. If you set the example of respect, people around you will follow. 

Ideas to show respect at home:

  • Try to see from your children’s perspective. Every child, no matter their age, has real reasons for why they act the way they do. If you can see that, you can respond in a respectful way that meets their needs.
  • Pay close attention when your family members talk to you. That means eye contact! I know, it’s so much easier to listen while you scrub the dishes or throw a load of laundry into the wash. But doing other things shows the child or your spouse that they are #2 in your life. And they’re not! They’re #1 all the way!
  • Value their opinions. 
  • Treat your kids and spouse like you treat your friends. The other day, I fell asleep on the couch after a long day. My poor toddler was potty training and had a bit of a sick tummy. She tried to wake me up, but I told her mommy was sleeping and she needed to let me rest. When I woke up a little bit later, I found out that she had an accident because she needed my help to go potty!! Poor girl!!! I am quick to offer help to my friends, and I NEVER ignore them (even if I were sleeping!) but I didn’t help my child and ignored her legitimate need. It’s ok because I learned from it and I’ll be a little better tomorrow than I was today.

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Attitude 2: Forgiveness

Have you ever felt like it’s easier to hold a grudge at home than in other relationships? I guess you kind of HAVE to forgive people at work because you’ve got to come in to the office and be civil every day or you’ll be fired.

Nobody’s going to fire you from being a parent.

But that doesn’t mean there aren’t big consequences for holding grudges in the home.

Ideas to show forgiveness at home:

  • Never being up old offenses. If you’ve truly forgiven, then they’re gone from your mind completely.
  • Don’t keep score. Families aren’t about winning or losing. Tallies of good and bad behaviors are hurtful. We love each other equally no matter what the score board says.
  • Show love quickly after a family member hurts you. The faster things are solved, the better. Make it happen!
  • Always believe in your family, invest in them, show interest in them, sacrifice for them- even when it feels like you’ve given enough. You haven’t. You’ll always be giving and they’ll always be giving back. Take a minute to see all the ways that they are giving back to you! You’ll be amazed!!

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Attitude 3: Love

We all know we should love our family. And we do!

But sometimes the feeling of love in the home gets lost in the shuffle.

Things have to be done, we’re on a time crunch, it’s hard to keep patience. But when we recenter on what’s really important, it’s not so hard after all.

Ideas to show love at home:

  • Speak in a kind voice. Your tone and volume can convey love even when you are disciplining or correcting a child… or even during a disagreement with your spouse.
  • Read up on love languages and do something special for each member of your family that fits their love language! I love Love Languages. Basically, it’s a way to tailor your expressions of love in a way that will be well-received by the person you are showing your love to. And I totally believe in them!
    • My husband is a “words of affirmation” guy. I’m not. So he was always giving me lots of compliments and I never realized that I needed to compliment him back to make him feel loved!
  • Make time for each other. I know, the whole goal here is to make the most of our limited time together, but the fact is- the more time you have with your family, the better! Families are just too important to leave up to chance. We don’t just sit back and hope our marriage will make it. We make it work! We don’t just hope our kids will turn out ok. We actively teach them to be responsible citizens! The more family time you have, the better.
    • By the way, everyday family time is WAYYY more important than once in a while family time (like family vacations). Try things like:
      • Taking your spouse on a date every week (even if it’s an in-home date).
      • Having a “family night” once a week and plan a special activity (even if it’s something cheap or FREE).
      • Get involved in your kids’ after school activities, clubs, or sports.
      • Help your kids with their homework.
      • Involve the kids in the household chores. They’ll get done faster (which means more fun time together) and the kids will learn important skills.

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Attitude 4: Compassion

Compassion is understanding other people’s problems, feelings, concerns, stresses, and misfortunes.

It’s caring enough to ask, and knowing enough to thoroughly relate.

It’s true empathy.

Ideas to show compassion in the home:

  • Create a Love Map of each family member’s life. This is a concept developed by John Gottman (see the link) that initially applies to your significant other, but it totally works for kids too!! Basically, if you really love someone, you should know the ins and outs of their life. Things like:
    • Who are your kids’ best friends?
    • What are your kids’ favorite foods?
    • What are your kids’ fears?
    • What are your kids’ goals?
  • Be an Emotion Coach to your children. Another awesome Gottman concept! If you don’t know about emotion coaching, you’ve got to check it out! It’s a scientifically proven method to teach your kids about emotions so that they can understand their own feelings and other people’s feelings. It’s great practice for adults too!
  • Ask each person how their day went, dig deeper, and really listen. That old question “How was your day?” is a great start! It can lead to understanding more about the details of your child’s life. But don’t stop there- ask more questions! Dig deeper! Get a real conversation going! And of course, make eye contact and give the child your full attention when they tell you.
  • Make one-on-one time with each person. Personal topics don’t always come up in front of a group. Even if the person wants to share, the group setting can cause them to stay quiet. If you make time for each child to have one-on-one time with you, they are more likely to open up about their individual struggles.

 

Ok, let’s get to the nitty gritty!!! You’ve got your family all gathered together. You’ve got the TV off. You’re all staring at each other…

Now what??

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Activity 1: Discussions

Family time doesn’t have to be full of excitement and packed with activities.

Some of my best memories as a kid are of my family gathered in the living room. We’d all be strewn all over. Some of us laying on the floor, some on couches.

There was never enough sitting space for all the people present, so there’d be a few of us on the arms of the couch, a few on the headrests, a couple on other people’s laps, just lounging anywhere we fit.

And then we’d just… talk.

That’s so hard to do nowadays because the TV or our phones keep us entertained. We almost HAD to be bored before we had the best conversations.

And these were amazing teaching opportunities for our parents! They got to talk about the things that are most important to them! They discussed religion, politics, our future, family goals, what things are important to them and why, how to be successful in life, and much more.

Here’s some ideas of topics to discuss as a family:

  • Religion. Or even if you’re not religious, discuss what you believe and why. Don’t forget to let each child form their own opinions and express them!
  • Politics and current events. It’s important for kids to understand specific issues in the world around them. They can start forming opinions of the best solutions and grow to be adults who passionately (and respectfully) defend their political views.
  • Your children’s future! What do they want to be when they grow up? Do they want to be parents? How will they make a difference in the world? Who will they help? What do they need to do or become now to reach their goals?
  • All about your kids!! This is a great time to develop those love maps! Ask all kinds of questions about your kids’ day to day life! Click here for some great Get to Know You questions.
  • Set family goals. My family decided we wanted to go to Disneyland together. There were a lot of kids, so that was no easy task to save enough money. But we set that goal together and then we worked hard to meet that goal! We saved pennies, we contributed money we had earned, we gathered change in WalMart parking lots, anything to gather the money! And then we finally got to go and had a blast!!!
  • What qualities we want to have. Set personal goals, with a whole support system in your family to help you meet those goals! Decide what you want to become, and work toward that goal- but you don’t have to do it alone! And you can inspire the others in your family to be better too.
  • Personal struggles. You’ve got a perfect, loving, non-judgmental, supportive community to bounce ideas off of! Need advice? Need to think through a solution? Family time is the perfect time! It’s amazing how often the kids have the perfect solutions to big adult problems. They really are clever!

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Activity 2: Work

Yes, family time can be used for work… and SHOULD be used for work!

Life isn’t always fun and games. It’s important for kids to learn how to handle difficult thins too. Who better to coach them through that than mom and dad??

So get your kids involved in the work at home, and you get involved in their work tasks!

Here’s some ideas to include work in your family time:

  • Help kids practice! What are your kids involved in? Sports? A musical instrument? Chess? Try it out with them! They can teach you something, you can help them out, and you’ll have family time while checking one thing off the to do list! Not to mention that showing interest in something your child is interested in (even if you’re NOT interested in that thing) really goes a long way!!
  • Do homework together. Even if you don’t know how to do the problems, you can all research it together or maybe one of the other kids know the solution. 🙂
  • Get the chores done. Your kids can and should help with household chores. It’s great for them to learn how to clean a house! They are going to have to care for their own space someday, and it teaches them respect for the things they have. It also creates empathy for you and all the hard work you do for them every day.
  • Take care of the yard. Same story- just outside! Help your kids learn important skills and learn to value what they have!
  • Let older kids care for younger siblings or pets. Most people will become parents some day. Caring for younger siblings is great practice! But there’s an even bigger lesson-caring for siblings teaches kids how to sacrifice for the well-being of another person.
  • Help out a neighbor! When you teach your kids to work hard, help them learn to care for others outside the family too. You are a vital part of your community. You can build your neighborhood up and make it better! Your children will learn the magic of helping out someone in need.
  • Cook dinner together! Follow these links for all you need to know!!!

Activity 3: Fun

This is usually what I think about when I think of family time! FUN!

And it is a great piece of the puzzle- but now we know, it’s not the ONLY piece of the puzzle.

When you have fun, make sure you’re doing something fun for everyone in the family. Choose an activity that will reach out to a struggling family member. Choose an activity that will teach a new skill! Choose an activity that will require family members to work together cooperatively!

Here’s some great ideas of fun family activities!

 

Do you have other great ideas for family time?? Share them in the comments!!!

 

Well, that’s it!!

Go have fun, learn together, grow individually and as a unit!!

You’ll all be stronger and happier as you spend time with your family… as long as you make it QUALITY time!!!

For more information, see The Family: A Proclamation to the World. 

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

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Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

 

Trivia Answer: American families ONLY spend an average of 37 minutes per day of family time. 

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Moms, do you ever look around at your life and think, “Huh… I never thought about it… but what the heck????” 

I sure do.

There’s a lot of weird mommy quirks that we are so used to! But we probably look crazy as all get out to strangers on the street who watch us as we drag our kiddos along to get our errands done.

Here’s a few of the odd… and yet normal… parts of mom life, brought to you by moms who know exactly what you’re experiencing!

1. The Zombie Mode

I know you know what I’m talking about!

That glazed-over, I can’t take another step or deal with another thing, the day is over at 6pm survival mode!

It’s the Zombie Mode that leads to accidental promises like:

“Can I please have spaghetti tacos for dinner??”

“Oh yeah honey, sure. Dinner is soon.”

2. Pee

It squirts everywhere, it soaks into carpet, it defies the laws of gravity, and it always smells. Like forever.

I could sniff out every place where I’ve ever had to clean up pee in my house… like a hound dog. Not that I would need to, those memories are etched into my brain.

3. Poop

Oh, poop.

It’s all normal now.

  • Poop on me,
  • poop up the baby’s back,
  • poop on the toys,
  • poop in the cracks.

One fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish.

4. Memorizing my child’s library.

“Sure sweetie, I’ll read you Green Eggs and Ham. Did you want to actually see the pictures or should I just start reciting?”

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5. That’s Embarrassing…

Or at least, it would be if I cared to stop and think about it…

You know you’re a mom when you don’t flinch at socially inappropriate comments yelled to you across the aisle at the store, or through the bathroom stalls, or over three tables of strangers at a restaurant.

“My wiener looks weird!” is sure to being a gasp and a blush from a rookie, but a seasoned mom just yells right back, “Why are you looking at it HERE??”

6. Oh, Sorry. I Forgot.

“What was that important thing… Oh well, it doesn’t matter.”

Mommy brain is real, people.

And you know what else it is??? A real EXCUSE! Milk that one, mamas!

7. Constant Noise!

“Can you hear me now? Oh well.”

I haven’t participated in a calm, focused, uninterrupted conversation in 12 years.

But I am getting very good at multitasking and filtering out the important stuff, like “I have to pee!”

8. Constant Clutter

The whisk is in the toy bin and the duck tape is in the freezer. Whatever.

You know you’re a real mommy when you take a look around, sigh a little, plop your exhausted butt onto the couch, and turn on Netflix!

Of course- there is one perk to the clutter issue. Next time your kid asks, “Mommy, can I have a new toy?” all you have to say is, “Sure, you just have to find one in your room.”

I promise, there’s a toy in there he didn’t know he owned!

9. Sibling Arguments

“I don’t care who’s right, what matters here is that you two reach a solution on your own… as in, without me.”

Now that’s good parenting full of perks for you! Well done mom!

10. Throw Up

Ok, we’ve already covered pee and poop. Now, we just have to hit puke.

You know what, let’s just make this easy- Moms deal with all bodily fluids. All the time.

Until it’s just like, “Whatever, a little day old, half-digested, full of stomach acid, leftover spaghetti can’t scare ME!” 

And then, one day, you reach that magical age when your kids are old enough to clean up their own puke! And then it’s like, “Whoa, I can’t believe I ever touched that stuff! You have fun with that.” 

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11. An Audience while I Pee

Let’s see… we’ve got the 5 year old asking for snacks, the 3 year old climbing onto my lap, the baby crawling through the cabinets…. and the dog staring at me from the doorway.

Great, everyone’s here. Let’s get started.

12. An Audience while Pooping

You might think this is the same. But it’s very different.

You thought you had stage fright before! Just try to go #2 with all that pressure!

13. I’m a Jungle Gym. It’s Fine.

The sooner you accept it, the happier your life will be. Your identify has changed from an independent woman to the most entertaining of children’s climbing toys.

When I sit on the couch, I’ve got a kid crawling up the headrest and onto my shoulders.

When I lay down, my toddler instantly sits on my forehead.

When I stand, I’m a fire pole.

When I try to run away, I’ve got three kids sitting on each foot. There’s no escape!

14. Did Those Words Just Come Out of MY Mouth?

Oh, the crazy things you never thought you’d say.

Moms are full of, “The dog doesn’t like it when you put your underwear on his head” and “It’s impolite to poop in the neighbor’s tree.”

15. Boogers

Oh, just when we thought we were done with bodily fluids, allergy season hits or your kid gets a cold.

“Do we have a tissue around? No? We’ll just have to use the inside of your shirt.”

Problem solved!

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16. That Sarcastic Voice in Your Head

Now, moms have to be good examples, so they’re not free to say what they think and feel all the time.

That’s what your secret, in-your-head, Sarcastic Mom Friend is for! Kinda like your child’s Imaginary Friend, except a lot funnier.

  • “Mom, can I watch TV?” I don’t know, did we just finish four episodes of Dora the Explorer and a full-length Disney movie?? I’m not sure how many more of your brain cells I can allow to die off in one day… but it it’s a sustainable amount, sure, you can watch TV! 
  • “Is dinner almost ready?” I don’t know, did you plant the wheat, harvest it, take it to the mill to make flour, mix the ingredients, and bake the bread? HUH, HENNY PENNY??? 
  • “She’s hitting me!” Did you deserve it?? 

17. A Constant Frenzy

Where’s the baby? What’s for dinner? Why are there no clean clothes in the closet? What time was that appointment? Where is your left shoe? Why are your clothes on backwards? Did you just hit your sister? Did you practice your piano? What do you mean the dog ate your homework? When is the last time we fed the dog? Who’s in charge of cleaning the bathroom? Where are you going? When are you coming home? Why do I keep mixing up my kids’ names? Is it bedtime yet?

Why am I going insane??

I love you!

18. Second Guessing Everything

Being a mom means developing a healthy level of trust issues.

After all, you can’t always take a 3 year old’s word… or a 5 year old’s word… or a 7 year old’s word… or a teenager’s word…

“Mom, I’m sick.” Ooooooh, REALLY?????

19. Hiding from the Kids

Where’s the most relaxing place in the world for a mom?

Tucked deep into her closet, behind the dresses where she can’t be spotted, with the door locked, eating her secret stash of chocolate.

Ahhh, I think I’ll go there now.

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20. Getting 80% Done with 40% Battery

Moms don’t mess around! Even when the going gets tough, moms buckle down and get sh!% done!!

Even when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, feeling inadequate, and don’t know what to do, you take care of those cute kids.

Because you’re a mom.

It’s crazy to other people, but to you, it’s just life!

21. An Insane, Unthinkable, Deep, Overarching, Long-suffering, Abiding Love

People without kids don’t get us moms.

They can’t understand why we do what we do, why we put up with everything, why we sacrifice so much.

There’s no way to explain to them how deeply and unconditionally you love those sweeties.

They’ll never quite understand. And you’ll just keep smiling to yourself because there’s just no way to tell them.

It’s crazy to them, but it’s normal to you.

 

I hope this brought you a smile or a chuckle today. You deserve it, mama.

Notice the crazy, unique things about parenthood. They’re the fun and crazy and unique things that keep us on our toes and keep us laughing.

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

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Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

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Welcome to When Fit Hits the Shan’s Development Series!!

We’ll cover each major developmental phase of life from age 0-18, diving deep into what affects children during that particular phase, what you as a parent need to be aware of, and how you can help your child develop properly.

Each post (including this one!) covers helpful topics for each developmental stage of life- including:

  • Milestones, New Skills, and Developmental Goals
  • Activities to Boost Development
  • Warning Signs or Potential Dangers
  • Typical Struggles for Mom and What to Do
  • GREAT Things About This Developmental Phase
  • What’s Coming Up Next for Your Child??

Let’s dive into the infant stage!

First of all, congrats Mama!! That’s so exciting that you get to enjoy this amazing miracle of parenthood!

It’s seriously the best. There’s not a thing in the world that can compare. You love these little ones so much, and they just fill your entire universe.

Sometimes I just let my jaw drop and sit in awe for a minute at how wonderful and perfect and sweet and funny and cute and innocent and pure and loving and forgiving and cuddly and honest and wonderful kids are! Especially my own kids. There’s nothing like having your own.

And now you get to enjoy all that too! I’m just bursting with joy FOR you!  

So here it is! Everything a mom needs to know about your infant’s development within the first 6 weeks of life! 

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Milestones, New Skills, and Developmental Goals

First of all, it’s important to note that developmental milestones happen over a range of time.

For example, it’s normal for kids to start talking between 9 and 14 months! That’s quite a range! It gets really stressful if your child is a 14 month old talker. 

You wait and wait… and all the other kids are saying words… And you’re just hanging in there hoping your baby will speak too! And then one day, he does! And it’s such a relief. But you can’t help but feel behind! Now all the other kids know five or six words and your baby only says one! 

Don’t get caught up in comparisons. It’s perfectly ok for kids to take their development at their own pace!

So don’t freak out mama.

Here are a few awesome new skills to watch for in the first 6 weeks of life:

  • Gain about 4 lbs during the first 6 weeks. Keep in mind- babies often loose a couple pounds in the first two or three days after birth, then gain it back slowly over the next weeks.
  • Focus on faces. This is super fun because you can tell your baby is getting to know you! Hold her close because her eyesight isn’t great at first.
  • Coo, sigh, gurgle, and other adorable sounds!! Soak these up! These adorable little noises are unique to newborns and will start to change as your baby gets older. This is great practice for your baby to eventually use those vocal chords to speak and sing!
  • Improve eating. Infants eat on demand- meaning whenever they are hungry, feed them. Your baby should be showing consistent signs of hunger (yay- you’re figuring out this crazy motherhood thing!). She should also be using a proper latch (if not, practice makes perfect! Don’t be afraid to stop feeding and adjust the latch!). You will also notice that she is more efficient at eating- meaning she can feed faster and less frequently.
  • Sleep 16 hours per day. Don’t expect your infant to sleep through the night because he still needs to eat during the night (I know, that sucks! Hang in there mom!). Around 6 weeks of age, you can start understanding better what your baby’s sleep patterns are! Woo hoo for schedules and death to the unpredictability of the first few weeks!!!!
  • Stronger neck and head! It’s tough for an infant to hold their head up, but as your baby gets lots of tummy time you will see improvement during the first 6 weeks! You will still need to be careful to support his head, but he will start trying to lift his head on his own. He should also be able to move his head from side to side.
  • Umbilical Chord. You can expect the baby’s umbilical chord to fall off on its own within the first few weeks. Once it does, your baby is ready for her first real bath- not just those wipe-em-down-with-a-towel wannabe baths!
  • Social and Emotional Skills! I know, so exciting! This is by far my favorite developmental milestone of the first 6 weeks! Your baby learns who you are! He learns your voice and your face! When you start talking or when you approach your baby, he’ll start to wiggle and flap his arms and reach for you! And the SMILES! Every once and a while, a newborn will smile in their sleep as they dream of your breast milk, but at about 6 weeks you see a real I-love-you-mommy SMILE! Yay! There’s nothing like it in the world.

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Activities to Boost Development

One of my favorite things about being a mom is that balance between nature and nurture!

It’s awesome because I get to relax and enjoy my kiddos in whatever stage of life they are in (nature) and yet I also love being an active participant in shaping their character (nurture). 

So cool, huh?? Moms really get the best of both worlds!

We’ve been talking about the nature part so far (development) but let’s throw in a little of the nurture. Here’s what YOU can do to help your child along in learning new skills and mastering his first 6 weeks of life!! 

  •  Snuggle, touch, hold, kiss, diaper, burp, feed, sleep together, etc. Touch is wonderful for newborns! All the typical routines of taking care of a baby (diapering, burping, feeding, sleeping) can involve a lot of parent-child bonding if you hold and snuggle your newborn during those times. It’s stimulating to his senses, he can learn your voice and your face, and it strengthens your relationship.  Look for any chance you can find to soak up your sweet little one- it’s great for them too!
  • Eye contact. Newborns have poor eyesight, so hold them close to your face. It’s good for them to see you up close to learn who you are. This builds trust and familiarity. You can also practice tracking- meaning helping your baby follow an object with his eyes- by moving a brightly colored toy across the baby’s field of vision (this is also great for his neck muscles!!).
  • Talk, sing, read, and more! Let your baby hear your voice! Even though she can’t talk yet, she’ll learn to recognize who you are by your voice and she’ll pick up on specific pieces of language, like tone fluctuations, emotions in your voice, pauses in speaking, and more!
  • Movement games. Babies love to move! Lay your little one on your lap, take a hold of their hands or feet, and practice clapping, running, jumping, playing pretend drums, and more!
  • Bright colors and patterns. These are easier for their little eyes to see and they get their brains working!
  • Tummy time! Tummy time is not a suggestion- it’s an important part of babies’ health. Without tummy time, babies develop a flat head from laying in one position all the time. Laying them on their bellies strengthens babies’ neck and back muscles.
  • Meet their needs quickly! The most important developmental goal of the first 6 weeks is to develop a strong bond between parent and child. This bond is your child’s first emotional attachment and has a deep influence in the rest of her social and emotional development for life. Help your baby learn to trust you by meeting her needs quickly in the first few weeks. As the baby gets older, she is more capable of waiting a minute or two if needed. For now, do your best to respond quickly to your child’s cries.

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Warning Signs or Potential Dangers

Now. Moms. We are always on hyper-alert for anything that might be wrong with our babies because we love them and it freaks us out to know that they might not be genetically perfect.

Keep an eye out for these things, but don’t stress yourself too much! Follow your mommy intuition. Trust your gut.

If you have any questions, just give your doctor a call. It’s always better to be safe and double check! 

Here’s a few of the common warning signs or potential dangers of the first 6 weeks of life.

  • Yellow skin or eyes. Jaundice is when your baby has too much bilirubin in her blood. Basically, her liver is just brand new and needs a little more practice to function properly. The great news is that there’s a super simple solution! All she needs is a little sunlight!  Open a window, lay down a blanket in the sun, and let your baby soak up the light for 10-15 minutes. In extreme cases, newborns may need to be hospitalized for extreme cases of jaundice. If you’re unsure, call the doctor and ask about your specific situation.
  • Sluggishness/Unresponsive. Babies who are lethargic may have medical problems that need a doctor’s attention. Your baby should sleep often, but wiggle, look around, and make noises when she is awake.
  • Refuse to eat. Generally, infants eat on demand- meaning we feed them whenever they need food. Typically, babies at this age are hungry every 4-5 hours. If your baby shows no interest to eat or avoids eating for a long period of time, see your doctor.
  • Vomiting/Diarrhea. Sickness in babies can be serious because of their weak immune systems. If your child is vomiting (more than just a little spit up… which is normal) or has diarrhea visit your doctor.
  • Fever. For a baby under 29 days old, a fever of 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit is a medical emergency. Get your baby to the doctor right away!
  • Umbilical Chord Infection. Keep an eye on the child’s umbilical chord for signs of infection, which include: red skin, puss, and/or a yucky smell. Take your child in to the doctor if you notice any of these symptoms.
  • Sucking Problems. Nursing is tricky for moms and babies. It’s a new skill that you both have to learn. Don’t be too concerned if nursing is difficult, but know that there is a lot of help out there (lactation consultants, online resources, creams and lotions to heal your nipples, etc.). However, there are more serious feeding issues that might require a doctor’s attention, such as:
    • Weak sucking
    • No swallowing during nursing
    • Abnormally long feeding (45 minutes or longer)
    • Excessive spit up or discolored spit up
  • Not gaining weight. Babies typically grow in a steady and upward trend. You don’t want to see a baby’s weight or height plateau. Your baby might not be gaining enough weight if he has very few dirty/wet diapers or if his skin is loose. Don’t be worried about the drop in weight that usually occurs 2-3 days after birth. It’s normal for babies to drop a little weight but then they gain it right back and then some in the following weeks.

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Typical Struggles for Mom and What to Do

The first 6 weeks is no picnic. There are some tough things about this developmental phase.

Here’s a few of the common struggles for mom during the infant phase… and what to do about it!

  • Postpartum Recovery. Let’s not forget- through all of this development that your baby is going through and all this change you’re experiencing, you’re still healing from childbirth! This is a major physical and emotional adjustment. If you are struggling to care for your baby while recovering from labor and delivery, try these tips:
    • Follow the doctor’s directions to the T!
    • Ask other people for help!
    • Communicate clearly to your partner so that they can help you.
    • Make time for self-care, even if it’s just a little extra sleep.
    • Keep it simple. Cook meals out of a box like Hamburger Helper or something. Don’t worry about cleaning. Don’t move unless you have to. The couch and Netflix are your friends.
    • Take advantage of helpful products that can make you more comfortable.

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  • Postpartum Depression or Anxiety. Please know that these are REAL conditions that can affect ANYONE- regardless of your emotional health before the baby comes. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s nothing to hide. If you find yourself battling with postpartum depression or anxiety, try these tips:
    • Tell a doctor right away and follow his recommendations!
    • Tell your family and friends. Be prepared with a list of things they can do to help you- including cleaning your house, meals, taking the baby for a bit while you sleep, watching the older siblings, shopping, or WHATEVER else you think of!! Maybe you just need chocolate! Tell someone and they’ll get it for you!
    • Self-care the crap out of yourself!! Take long showers, nap when the baby naps, snuggle your husband and/or the baby, eat yummy food, get take out!! All that and more!

Need some great ideas for self-care? Read more here: 

27 Universal Truths to Live a Happy Life NOW!

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Fill Yourself- 6 Vital Tools for Balancing Parent Life and Personal Life


 

  • Knowing what baby needs. How am I supposed to care for an infant who can’t tell me what is wrong?? She just cries! Luckily, science and smart moms before me have it down. Here’s what to look for when your baby is crying:
    • Is he hungry?
    • Is he tired? (Side note- it’s better to help a baby fall asleep before they get fussy so be aware of early signs of sleepiness)
    • Is he hot or cold?
    • Is his diaper wet or dirty? (Or maybe he’s in the process of pooping??)
    • Does he want to be held?
    • Does he have gas? (Try pumping his legs or holding him in a different position to relieve gas pains)
    • Is he uncomfortable? (Try holding him in different positions or laying him down in different positions)
    • Is he overstimulated? (Try giving him some space to see if that calms him down)
    • Is there something hurting him that I didn’t notice? (Try checking him from head to toe to see if there is something wrong. It could be something poking him through his jammies or a hair wrapped around his toe. One mom told me she accidentally clipped the pacifier to her baby’s nipple! Oops!)
  • Colic. Basically, colic is when babies cry for no reason for 3 hours per day or more, for 3 days a week or more. It’s really tough on parents because colicky babies are difficult (nearly impossible!) to soothe. And it can last for a few months! If your baby is colicky, try these methods:
    • Give your baby something to suck on, like a pacifier.
    • Swaddle the baby tightly to resemble the snug feeling of being in the womb.
    • Sway and rock with your baby to calm and relax them.
    • Sing, shush, or use white noise to drown out the new and loud sounds outside the womb. These noises can be overstimulating to a baby, so consistent sound like a vacuum, running water, or shushing can be relaxing to a newborn.
    • Try a change of scenery, like going outside or taking a bath. The warm water or the fresh air might help your child calm down.
    • For more excellent suggestions, check out Coping with Colic from BabyCenter
    • And of course, moms- take care of yourselves if you have a colicky baby!!
  • Nursing struggles. Nursing doesn’t come naturally to a lot of people. If that’s the case for you, try:
    • Using a lactation consultant for help.
    • Practice, practice, practice!
    • Learn as much as you can. Maybe the baby isn’t latching properly and there’s a simple fix!
    • Try pumping and feeding the baby your breast milk in a bottle.
    • Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed if you need to feed your baby formula!
    • Take advantage of the products that are out there to help you.

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  • Sleep deprivation. If you ask moms what the worst part of the infant stage is, you’ll always hear about the lack of sleep! This one is universal. Everyone gets less sleep during the infant phase. Every baby in this phase needs to eat at night, and that means you’ll be up to feed them. So sorry about that one, mama! But it’s a fact of life. If you’re struggling with the sleep deprivation, try these things:
    • Sleep any time you can!
    • Ask friends or family to watch your older kids so that you can nap when the baby naps.
    • Don’t fall into the trap of trying to be productive while baby sleeps! You’ll get there later- but in the first 6 weeks, sleep time for baby is sleep time for mom too.
    • Divide duties with your partner. Pump some milk so that he can feed the baby with a bottle sometimes.
    • Use relaxation methods and calming techniques to help you get a restful sleep.
    • Simplify daily life. If you’re exhausted, you can’t keep up with everything, so just do what really matters and let the rest wait!
  • Feeling stuck indoors. Are you a social butterfly? Or a workaholic? Or a busy bee? Then you’re likely to struggle with the first 6 weeks. This time is about relaxing, laying around on the couch, figuring out this new little person. Not about getting stuff done or going out. In fact, it’s not very safe to take your little one out because his immune system is weak. If you’re feeling stuck, here’s some tips:
    • Ask friends to come visit!
    • Ask a friend, your partner, or a family member to watch the baby while you go out. Make sure you pump some milk so baby can eat!
    • Think up a bunch of fun activities for yourself before you have your baby.
    • Get ready to binge watch your favorite shows!
    • Get yourself treats, comfy pillows and blankets, adult coloring books, regular books, whatever you need to be cozy and happy indoors.
    • Sit outside with your baby for a few minutes to get some fresh air!

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GREAT Things About This Developmental Phase

Now, just because there are some tough things doesn’t mean the newborn phase isn’t incredible… because it really is!

The newborn phase is one of my favorites. Ok, I’ll probably say that about every developmental phase… but it’s true- every single one has so many amazing things!!! 

You’ll never experience anything else like the infant stage. Here’s why:

  • They’re SOOO snuggly! As babies and children grow up, sometimes they don’t want to cuddle you. It’s so sad! Not so with infants. You can hold them close, dress them up, take adorable pictures, and snuggle some more. And they love every second of it!
  • It’s so short. The infant phase is unique because it’s only a few weeks long! That can be a good thing because there are difficult things about this phase… but it’s also the perfect reason to soak it right up!!! Your baby will change so fast, so you need to remember every second!
  • It’s an amazing reason to slow down in life. Life is way too fast paced in modern society. The infant stage defies this extreme rush! None of that- instead, we’re going to rest for a solid 6 weeks. That’s right- take that, assembly lines and race cars.
  • It’s humbling. The infant stage reminds me of what’s important. I refocus on my family each time I have another baby. But that’s not all- I learn that I can’t do everything myself and I learn to accept help from others all over again. I learn to simplify and take it easy. I learn to smell the flowers. I learn to admire the amazing perfection of a new child and I remember my immense responsibility to raise this little human to become a responsible adult. It’s a lot to take in- in a short time. The infant stage is all about the baby’s growth and my own growth.
  • It’s simple. The infant stage isn’t complicated. There’s no discipline because an infant doesn’t break rules. They cry for three or four reasons, give or take. The infant stage is a good beginner lesson to the complex role of parenting.

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What’s Coming Up Next for Your Child??

Your child is graduating from the “infant” stage. Soon, she’ll be a full-fledged chubby, wiggling, giggling, playing baby!

Everything Parents Need to Know- Development from 6 Weeks to 6 Months Old!!

 

Well mama, enjoy your infant, and remember how lucky you are to be a mom! It really is the best job in the world. So rewarding, so fulfilling, and so enriching.

You’ll learn to give your entire self to another person who needs you.

There’s nothing like it! Enjoy motherhood! 

Sincerely,

Mrs. S

 

Who is Mrs. S… and why do people call you that? 

It’s my favorite nickname! That’s what all my students call me!

I’ve been around the block a time or two. I’ve worked with children from ages 0-18, some with mental illness, some with disabilities, some with Autism, and many with behavioral problems.

I also worked as a parent educator!

All that doesn’t hold a candle to my best experience with children- being a mom. Want to learn more about me? Click here! 

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