Every mom goes through a unique phase before she gets pregnant. It’s a time of preparation… Time to start thinking about what kind of health I should be in before my pregnancy.
This is always a tough time for me. I typically make much better choices eating and exercising when I am pregnant or nursing than I do normally. I’ve got to reign in all the emotions that come with eating, not just the eating itself. It’s an entire lifestyle change, a whole new mindset. More than just eating your veggies.
I just like tasty food. And I’m not a dieter. And I hate exercising.
But I also don’t want to be unhealthy or overweight, especially when there’s another little human who depends on me.
If only chips and cookies were nutritious… But they’re not.
So, I go through this terrible process before every pregnancy where I try to prepare my body for building another person- and that means being in good physical condition.
Nothing crazy, mind you.
Again, I am no dieter and I hate to exercise. All I’m aiming for here is being healthy in general.
No counting calories, or cutting out carbs altogether, or cayenne detoxing.
So how do I get prepare my body for having a child- without going crazy?
Ok, we all know about this. We know that refined sugars and carbs are bad. We know that veggies are good. We know that we should have a balanced diet with lots of colors.
So the first (Unavoidable!) step is to make a few healthier choices.
When I’m thinking about getting pregnant, I try to change my diet a few months in advance. Here’s some of the changes I make:
- Take a prenatal vitamin. Ok, so I usually do this all the time, but it is especially vital now! (Click the image below!)
- Buy whole wheat everything. Tortillas, bread, buns, you name it. I can’t seem to function without carbs, so I at least try to make them a little better for me by choosing whole wheat.
- Increase fresh veggies. I eat at least one veggie with each meal. No exceptions. Buy a variety of colors. This ensures that I’m getting a balance of nutrients from my food.
- Drink water. Pregnancy requires a ton of water, even more than normal. Before pregnancy, I start getting used to that by increasing my water intake. There are great resources out there, like water bottles that help you track your water intake (Click image below!)
This also means giving up other drinks- especially those with high sugars (like soda) or high caffeine (like coffee and energy drinks- read here for more information on how to keep your energy up without the caffeine!). And we all know that pregnancy means limiting or cutting out alcohol, so this is a good time to get started.
- Just stop buying unhealthy snacks that I can’t resist. Chips, chocolate, ice cream, and cookie dough are a few of my weaknesses. I can’t have them in my house if I am going to make a change to being healthy. So I just don’t let them in the house.
- Get through the cravings. It helps me to know that cravings for my favorite carbs and sugars should go away after a week or two of the new, healthier lifestyle. I just have to make it til then!
But that is only the first step!
Sweat and Stuff
Ok, seriously, who has time to exercise?
And who wants to exercise?
So how on earth does anyone ever get it done?
The only times in my life where I have been successful at keeping a consistent workout routine is if I am working out with a group. That way, they know if I am missing my workouts and they hold me accountable.
Effective. But I hate it.
My favorite way to get in some good physical activity is to play with my kids for 30 minutes to 1 hour every day.
I love this, especially right before another pregnancy, because I just want to soak up my little ones before I have a baby that needs most of my attention. I feel like it helps my kids cope with a new sibling because they get lots of mommy’s attention beforehand and it helps me feel connected with each child. And I get my workout in. And let me tell you, it’s an intense workout.
Win, win, win.
Power of Fluids
Here’s a simple trick that I use to make sure I am drinking enough water and also monitoring my portions at meal times.
About 30 minutes before the meal (usually right as I am starting to cook dinner or lunch), I drink a BIG glass of water. Not your average 8 fluid ounce cup. A BIG cup of water.
That’s 3 glasses of water (one at breakfast, one at lunch, and one at dinner). Not the entire day’s worth of water, but a good start! Again, if you would like some extra help keeping track, try these water bottles that keep you updated on how much water you need! Click the image below.
The water fills up my belly so that I eat a more appropriate portion of food rather than helping myself to a heaping plate.
This trick alone is responsible for a significant amount of my pre-pregnancy weight loss.
Another pitfall of my everyday eating habits is that I allow myself to eat whenever I want.
That means if I want a snack, I can have one. If I want a midnight snack, I can have one. If I want all the hobbit meals- breakfast, second breakfast, elevenses, luncheon, afternoon tea, dinner, and supper- there’s no stopping me.
If I’m working on being more healthy, I cut out some of these extra meals by setting rules for myself.
And, I don’t just mean lines in the sand, but firm, for reals, no joke rules.
For example, I don’t eat past 6pm.
I don’t let myself snack between meals.
I make my mealtimes consistent every day, such as breakfast between 9-10am, lunch between 12-1pm, and dinner between 5-6pm.
And that’s the only 3 hours in the day when I am allowed to consume food of any kind.
I know, I know, it’s healthier to eat small snacks often rather than big meals. If I had enough self-control to do that, I would. But when I try to eat 6 small snacks in a day, I just end up with 6 big meals.
In that case, it is more healthy to limit myself to meals rather than trying to snack.
Please note that this is one habit that I give up after pregnancy. I find that snacks are a helpful way to keep morning sickness away, and you need more calories during pregnancy anyways.
Emotions about food are difficult.
It is a tough topic for a lot of people. Media portrays a perfect body type that many people aspire to obtain. This brings up feelings of self-doubt, self-esteem, being in control, feeling accepted by others, health and wellness, confidence, and mortality to name a few.
(Click below for a great resource on emotional eating!)
Lots of big emotions are tied to food.
Success at changing a lifestyle takes more than just grudgingly following steps that you don’t want to do.
That’s where I went wrong for a long time.
As I have said many times, I’m no dieter. I’m no exerciser. I’m no good at counting calories.
These few tricks I have identified are the prefect mix (for me) of small and simple changes that I can handle. They are things that work for me, but they don’t send me into big emotions of frustration, regret for foods I have eaten, wishing for foods I can’t have, or self-punishment when I mess up.
I can feel happy about my food choices without putting myself under intense stress for giving up a major part of my life.
In doing so, I control my feelings and my food.